Be Thankful for the Growing Pains
Ask anyone that has ever reached success doing what they love if they ever encountered growing pains. Without hesitation they will tell you that they have. Not only once, but countless times along their path to greatness. Be thankful for the growing pains.
Pushing through the growing pains with your dream requires true grit. You are determined enough to doing what must be done by having grit.
What do you do if you face uncertainty?
Do it anyway. Pursuing your goals requires a backbone. If you didn’t have one to begin with you will soon develop one. This is only true if you stick with it though.
Learn to become disciplined when it comes to facing adversity with your dream. Think of it as a challenge. It is a test to see if you will move on to the winning circle. You start off in Round 1 and then move on to other rounds each time that you push through.
Celebrating My Blog Vintage Style
Reinventing myself through the eyes of a lens was a great feeling. You see before launching my blog I didn’t feel comfortable taking photos. I’m not ashamed to say that because it is part of my story. It is what is unique to me as an individual. If you want the story behind that see the link at the end of this post.
Here is what happens when you are a creative. You start thinking of your vision. You imagine what you want to create and then how you will create it.
On this journey, you must be willing to do things outside of the norm. For me it was getting all dressed up with a beautiful dress.
Along the way you find people who will see that vision and then make it a reality. That is what I did when I sought out to find my photographer for my first-year blog anniversary. I knew that this photo shoot would have to be as incredible as my first one.
I was looking to have fun and simply be comfortable in my own skin. Trusting someone else to do my makeup is something that I have been working on. Letting go and not being in control is a big deal.
I have found that I must trust the process and do it anyway. The great thing about doing it is that I get to see how others see me.
What I found most fun was deciding what to wear. I have always been a big fan of vintage clothing. This was an opportunity to indulge in it. Over the summer I was introduced to Canela Vintage based out of San Antonio, Texas.
Ever wake up to a new day in a frenzy?
You immediately think of every task that you need to accomplish. I can promise you that there will always be laundry to do, dishes to wash or errands to run.
How do you find time to be grateful for the small things though?
You have to remember to be present in the moment. Ever have a conversation with someone and not remember anything that they said? Or picture that reversed.
When has that happened to you?
We live in a world where we are constantly in a hurry. To get to the next thing on our lists of things that should get done. When we live in this state of mind that is when we miss out on the small things.
The small things really aren’t all that little if you think about it. They are usually the moments that we encounter with those that we love. They are opportunities of happy living that can either fall in our lap or fall out of our grasp if we aren’t paying attention.
Chances where we can create meaningful memories. Think of your life as a scrapbook. Each space on the page can represent a special moment.
What do your pages look like?
Remember that your pages will include times that might not make you feel grateful. How do you put yourself in a place where you can express gratitude?
This week in Ask Lucy the question comes from Sonia.
“Growing up it was easier to make friends easily wherever that you went. As a grown up this has been a challenging thing for me. How do you make friends as a grown up?”
I love this question Sonia because I am all about making new friends. It was so much easier as a little kid to make friends. You see when you are a kid anything goes.
Go to any public park and watch kids from all walks of life play with each other. No judgements are being made most of the time. They interact with each other for the same reasons. To play with each other and have a good time while doing it.
Don’t you wish that were still the case as an adult?
As a grown up you have become seasoned to the world. You are more aware of what you do and don’t like in people. As adults you tend to be a bit more selective and cautious with people in general.
Are you a shy person or do you like to mingle and get to know people?
From your question, I’m going to guess that maybe you can be a little shy. There is nothing wrong with being shy. What are your interests as an adult? Do you have any children?
Think of the things that you like to do. What are your hobbies and interests outside of work or the home?
In this weeks Ask Lucy segment the question comes from Yvonne.
“I have been working a 9-5 job for as long as I can remember. The job has been good to me and is fairly easy. My only dilemma is that I feel in my gut that I need to pursue my true passion. I know what I am passionate about. I’d rather not say what it is, but feel I need direction on what I should do. Do I stay with the traditional job that has a retirement plan along with security? Or do I pursue what is in my heart even though it’s out of my safety net?”
Ah! This one hits home for me. A lot of people who venture towards their dream have had these types of questions. Working in a traditional job has many benefits. You get sick time, vacation time, health insurance and a retirement plan usually. Those are not things to take lightly.
Are you happy though in the end?
When it is all said and done do you feel fulfilled at the end of the day?
We all have a purpose or even call it a destiny if you will. It is up to discover what that purpose is. What do you feel that you are being called to do?
Why does it touch your heart the way that it does?
Going after your dream feels a lot like opening a gift. It doesn’t matter if you are young, middle-aged or older. That feeling in the very core of your soul is the real thing.
In this weeks Ask Lucy segment the question comes from Nancy.
“My husband will be leaving soon for a job across the country. This job is a blessing, but my family is taking it hard. My family is really close and are used to spending time together. We have three wonderful kids. Two of them are making the transition from a teen to an adult and our youngest will be a senior soon. All of them have a special bond with their daddy. We’ve downloaded FaceTime apps and scheduled weekend visits. How can I help them and myself with this transition?”
This sounds like something that I can relate to. Before we moved to North Carolina our family went through this very thing. It can be a difficult time especially when you are so used to having your spouse and family together all of the time.
It sounds like you have set up some good ways to get through it. FaceTime and the weekend visits are going to benefit everyone. The main thing is keeping the communication line open.
With FaceTime it will be a way for your family and your spouse to feel connected to each other. Be sure to schedule your own one on one FaceTime with your spouse as well.
When we moved I didn’t have that kind of option, but I wish I would have been able to communicate this way with my spouse and I know our children would have loved that.
You want to remain supportive of your spouse taking this job. Remember that this will be hard on him as well. He has chosen to take a big leap to better himself and your family. It can be a time where there might be feelings of uncertainty.
Ever feel lonely on Valentine’s Day?
I’m talking about whether you are single, in a relationship or if you are married. Sometimes these special occasions can make you feel sad versus happy. If you are in a loving relationship this does not apply to you.
Instead of wallowing in self-pity try loving yourself first. Yes, you heard me right I’m talking about you first. In order to be happier with any holiday that comes along its important to feel good about you.
When you are content with who you are in the present moment it allows you to look forward to holidays all the more. It’s not about the expectations that you have about the other person. Neither is it keeping score on what a person has done for you in the past.
In this weeks Ask Lucy segment the questions come from Lesley.
“How do you juggle being a busy mom, wife and with two careers? How do you do it all and find time to take care of yourself? You are always so beautifully put together and happy looking.”
Wow, those are great questions and such a beautiful compliment Lesley! As long as I can remember I have always worked full-time and have been a writer during that time. I make time for my husband, our boys and myself.
My husband and I like to watch movies usually on demand on cable. If the weather is nice we have been known to hop on his Harley and take a nice ride then stop and get a bite to eat. With our boys we watch movies together or go out to eat.
Ever feel compelled to do something nice for someone?
During this time of year, it’s common to want to help our fellow-man. It is a season for giving and thinking of others. The holiday has a way of bringing out the best in all of us.
Pay attention to what is going on around you each day. You will almost always encounter a good deed taking place. It might be someone holding the door open for you or someone else. Perhaps it will be allowing a person to take the parking spot that you wanted.
When was the last time that you had a feel-good moment?
With my Dreamers in Motion column I interview some amazing people who are pursuing their passion. I hope to keep you all inspired with the people who I’m putting under the spotlight.
I think everyone deserves their moment to shine.
Q. Who is Linda Mendible?
Wow, what a question. Currently? A wife, mom & small biz owner/blogger, but most importantly a Christian.
Q. When did you know that you wanted to pursue your dream?