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Conferences Propel You Forward

Judy Goss and Kristin West
Judy Goss and Kristin West doing what they do best.

Conferences Propel You Forward

Ever get back from a conference fired up to apply everything that you learned? If you haven’t then I highly recommend that you consider the What Women Want National Conference in 2019. I came back from this conference so excited to move forward with my dreams and goals.

The theme this year was to Go Big.  Judy Goss put together a conference that had something for everyone. There were a variety of speakers and breakout sessions to choose from.

When you consider attending a conference do your research and be open-minded to what is being taught. There is always something valuable that you can take away from it.

Remember that not every single part of a conference may be a fit for you. This usually depends on the topic and who it is geared towards. Examine the parts that you think might be for you. How can you apply them to what you are doing now?

Fitness and Inspiration

Cathryn Marshall of Simple Fat Burn was a great speaker talking about diet, nutrition and fitness. All things that I am familiar with. I was reminded that I needed to up my water intake. She talked about sugar being in a lot of foods including some fruits and vegetables.

Even 10 minutes of exercise at home is beneficial. It is easy to make things more complicated than what they must be. She reminded us about getting our daily dose of greens too.

Nikki Walter was there with her daughter Addie to talk about their journey. There were some heartfelt moments throughout her story. It’s easy to be inspired by such a beautiful woman that is a hard worker and still finds a way to balance it all.

She was the perfect example of someone holding down a full-time job, a fitness powerhouse and a wonderful mom. The kind of woman that gives other women hope that they can do it too.

Lesley Jane Seymour was a great speaker as well. I connected with her talk. She is all about reinvention in middle age through her platform called Covey Club. I enjoyed her strength and examples of being resilient through some hard times.

Amy Newmark publisher of Chicken Soup for the Soul shared inspiration from some of her books. I have been a huge fan for many years. I couldn’t leave without asking her for a tip on writing for her someday.

The good news is that her tip resonated with me especially on my flight home.  I was reading one of the stories when there was a light bulb moment for me. That is what many people can take away from attending a conference. That golden nugget that will be the game changer.

We all have those epiphanies when we are strongly engaged to a speaker. It is about being a listener first, asking questions and then applying those principles. Without the application you stay in the same place.

Put in the Work

Anyone can attend a conference, but not everyone will do the work afterwards. I know that I wasn’t going to be that person that didn’t. Have you ever attended a conference that made you want to do more? Aside from learning things you get the opportunity to network.

You get the chance to establish new friendships. The in between moments when you can talk with each other are the best. People tell you their story and their plans.

What I loved about this conference is that it made you want to go after your goals. This time it made me feel more determined more than ever. Let’s face it when you hit midlife you start realizing that you don’t have all the time in the world.

So, to all the younger people out there go for it! For all my midlife people keep going and don’t stop. You will reap the rewards before you know it.

Forget Excuses

If you are looking to change your current situation find a conference near you. Buddy up with a friend. Start local then eventually travel to one that is 6 hours or less from you.

Don’t make up all the excuses of why you can’t. I almost wasn’t going to be at this conference this year. However, I made the decision to do whatever it took to be there.

Your Time Is Now

Judy Goss is someone that I admire and respect so much that I knew I had to be there. I am so grateful to her for what she has created and this community of women helps us empower each other. Attending a conference like this makes us see the bigger picture.

Yes, your time is now because we all get the same number of hours in a day. I left this conference feeling so pumped up to Go Big. I can tell you that a year went by fast since I attended last year’s conference. It may be Fall of 2018, but so much can be accomplished before the end of this year.

Will you be willing to do what it takes too?

A Second Blog Anniversary Keeps Me Going

A Second Blog Anniversary Keeps Me Going

 

Pursuing a dream is comparable to the work that you put in when you work out. You have a combination of sweat, tears and continuous hard work. It’s an almost love/hate relationship. Here I am, and I’ve arrived at the second year of my Blog Anniversary.

Time has surely flown on by. Every single step has been worth it. That is how far your passion takes you when you are willing. I stress on the word willing because that is the game changer.

Some people don’t know that I’ve been a writer for so many years. I was a writer before I ever became a blogger. I wrote for free for a while before I made a dime at writing.

However, my commitment is what has kept me going. Have I always been committed? Well I can tell you that I didn’t always feel like staying committed. There is a difference.

You could say that I took a hiatus from writing on a regular basis. Now that I’ve hit mid-life I realize that I don’t have any time to waste. No waiting for the right time either.

It’s a sink or swim mentality. Sounds harsh doesn’t it. That is what it takes to make it with anything that you’ve never done.

Have you ever felt like quitting something because it got too hard?

Keep Going Do It Anyway

That is what a dream does for you. You face the unknowns like a leaf shaking in the wind. You stumble and fall through all the uncertainties but manage to get back up.

You keep on going despite how hard it gets. These past couple of years has taught me about: grit, patience, gratitude, doubt, excitement, being consistent and staying committed to the course.

I have a strong passion for writing inspirational posts and articles that make you feel good. It gives me a lot of joy when a reader tells me something resonated with them. That right there is why I write.

If I can touch a heart, then I’ve done my job. I am super grateful for the friendships that I have made through blogging and for the wonderful opportunities that have come my way.

Be Willing to Continue Learning

I’m continually learning new things. You’d better believe there is never a dull moment. I still don’t know everything, and I’m blessed to work with Linda Mendible because she helps with the behind the scenes that I may not know the answer to with technology. On top of that she is an experienced blogger as well. She is my saving grace.

Honestly, I wouldn’t want to know how to do everything. Part of the excitement with a dream is learning along the way. You figure out what works and what doesn’t. If you can’t do it alone then you ask for help.

I’m finally at a point where I am working on my own book after all these years.  I also started my own podcast Arrows & Lattes on top of everything else. That’s the beauty of sticking with something and staying consistent. Sometimes I’m curious about the future and what it will bring my way.

In the meantime, I focus on what I can bring to the table. I aim to inspire, encourage and make a difference whenever I can. If I can pursue my dream all while having a family and a full-time job, then you can follow your dream too.

So, here’s to my second year doing what I love and celebrating my blog anniversary. A huge thank you to all that have come along the journey with me. I know my muse is proud of me, but most importantly so am I.

Glamping Made Special on Solo Retreat

The following is a sponsored post with Glampers Paradise.

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Inside the Peacock Mansion

Glamping Made Special on Solo Retreat

Imagine for a moment going on a glamping mini vacation. I found this on my solo retreat at Glampers Paradise. What is glamping? It is a way to enjoy the outdoors with a touch of glamour and wonderful amenities.

Upon my arrival Jennifer Waller greeted me outside in front of her gorgeous patio. It was awesome to finally get to meet her in person. I knew by the location that I was going to enjoy my stay.

I sat down with her to talk about her beautiful Airbnb. It is a place where women can rejuvenate, rest and rediscover themselves. As women get older and especially during midlife it is important to find that balance.

Some of them are women that are becoming empty nesters, have a full-time job and are married or single. Women that are undergoing these transitions tend to feel overwhelmed. They have raised their children and now ponder over what comes next in their life.

I loved the personalized touches. She had a lap desk ready for me because she knew that I was a writer. Plus, coffee and tea. The small plate snacks were delicious. I can’t say enough about her green juice in the mason jar. So good!

Her Shasta travel trailer is called the Peacock Mansion.  You will see her peacock decor throughout her outdoor space and in her trailer.

Green juice

Glampers Paradise is a place that offers relaxation and serves as a way to unplug. Also, as an opportunity to indulge in some self-love by booking a photo shoot. It’s the kind of place that you don’t want to ever leave from.

Playing dress up

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Feeling like a goddess in my blue dress.

Remember playing dress up as a little girl? That is exactly what I did only grown up style.

I had the chance to put on some beautiful dresses and lovely statement jewelry. Jennifer had a way of making me feel right at home. She was the type of lady that I would have loved to have grown up with.

We had a wonderful evening with a fire too. It was so easy to unwind with a glass of red wine. Being outdoors under the stars and having an inspiring talk.

It reminded me of a slumber party. Guests can interact as much or as little they’d like to. I’m a people person so I loved spending time with Jennifer. I found out more about her as a person and with her other business venture that I will cover in a future post or in my podcast.

The photo shoot made it feel that more special. When you are wearing a long gown, you feel empowered. You feel sexy and most of all you feel worthy.

Worthy enough to indulge in getting pampered and most of all simply being still. Rediscovering yourself without the to do list, daily distractions or being pulled away from yourself.

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Beauty in the woods at Glampers Paradise

It’s okay to say yes

“You don’t need permission to kind of escape for two days and two nights and put yourself first.” When Jennifer said that I could immediately relate to it.  What woman hasn’t felt guilty about putting herself first?

It was a place where you could pause and breathe. All while being surrounded by beautiful things. That is what she hopes women will experience during their stay.

From the Peacock Mansion offering privacy or the outdoor space you will find tranquility. There is something that will resonate with you. They offer romantic stays as well.

The milk bath was the most relaxing way to end my stay.

When was the last time that you did something special? Doing something for yourself is worth doing. When you take care of yourself you are at your best for others.

Forget the mom guilt and leave it at home. Staying at Glampers Paradise will be just what you needed. Be prepared to feel welcomed. There is so much more than meets the eye here.

Maybe it’ll be the soul searching or revisiting that dream of yours from childhood. I tell you the possibilities are endless.

Don’t you owe it to yourself to discover that?

I know that I did and can’t wait to explore those possibilities again. Very soon too I might add.

Doing More of What You Love

Doing More of What You Love

Each day is a chance to doing more of what you love. Looking at your days of the week may show you a pattern. You might notice that you are doing the same things throughout the week. How do you break out of that cycle?

This doesn’t mean you abandon your responsibilities, but rather explore ways to add value to your day. Maybe you have thought of visiting a place on your wish list. It could be something small or something that you need to plan.

With careful thought you could find yourself doing more things that make you happy. Maybe you are waiting for your significant other to take the lead. Instead you pour yourself into being busier. One word of advice: stop and instead you take the lead.

If you work, you may find that you are too busy to plan outside of your normal routine. People often make it harder than what it is. You could look at your day in two ways.

You work a set number of hours. Then you go on to other responsibilities whether that is on your own or with your family or significant other. The second way is to carve out some time where you get to enjoy something different.

Maybe that is getting together with a friend. If you are a parent maybe you try something new with your kids. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it does have to provide enjoyment. You can work the daily grind and do it all over the next day or you could change up your routine today.

Don’t neglect the signs around you

What if you neglect noticing the signs around you that you miss out on it?

It happens all the time. Especially if you work a 9-5 job. A friend asks you to get together, your child asks to spend time with you or a loved one hints for some quality time together. How many times have you missed out on a chance to make memories?

Those are the things that you’ll remember you loved doing. Put your cell phone down, get off your laptop and give in to these moments. They are the things that will make you happier.

Change up the way that you do things. See a movie during the week instead of the weekend. Eat at a special restaurant instead of waiting for your birthday. Say yes to an invite instead of wondering if you should go or not.

It’s okay to continue working hard at your job and on your dreams. Although it’s important to remember that we all get the same hours in one day, in one month and in one year.

Give yourself time to indulge in the little things, the big things and anything else in between. Feeling more fulfilled at the end of the day will be your reward. You’ll be able to go to bed with a smile on your face.

If you could do more of what you love today, what would it be?

Lucy Brummett
Enjoying my first photo shoot. It was a blast!

Creating Beautiful Wreaths at Boyce Farms

Creating Beautiful Wreaths at Boyce Farms

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Wreath assembly

Boyce Farms has been known for their gorgeous Christmas trees and their excellent customer service. It is a place where you feel right at home and you end up coming back year after year. Creating beautiful wreaths this season was a wonderful experience.

It is my pleasure to highlight them because they have been my go to place for our Christmas tree every year. Last year I missed it because I waited too long, but rest assured we will be getting another one soon.

This year marked their first ever “Wine, Wreaths & Christmas Trees” event. I signed up when there were a couple of available spots. A last-minute decision turned out to be a great way to spend my evening with great company.

Jennifer Lavrack was a great hostess for the evening along with the other amazing team of people. It was a nice way to unwind after a long day. I am sure the other women that attended were happy to get together with their friends too.

Even if you did not go with a friend you had a chance to meet new people. I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and go alone if you don’t have a friend to go with. Everyone will make you feel welcome.

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Wreath making

These were some of the tools that were used to construct our freshly made wreaths. I loved being able to cut my pieces with the hope that it would come out pretty. The tutorial was easy to understand. It was a matter of finding the right pieces and in the end, we all had our own unique wreath.

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Fire pit warmth

This fire pit created a warm ambiance as we made our wreaths. Plus, you had a great view of all their Christmas trees.

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Centerpiece and Wreaths

These centerpieces made me want to cuddle up back at home in front of our fireplace. A variety of wreaths were available also.

At the end of the night we had a new wine glass to take back home as a souvenir. Making a wreath was so relaxing and it added to my favorite time of the year.

I love my wreath and will also be adding some additional Christmas decorations to it. As of now it is already on display on our door.

If you are looking for a fun night out stop by and get a taste of tradition, kindness and all the goodness that comes out of your visit to Boyce Farms. You will leave there with a little more holiday spirit in your heart.

That you can count on.

 

http://www.boycefarms.com/

 

Reinventing Yourself Through Your Dream

 

Ask Lucy

This week in Ask Lucy the question comes from Andrea.

“How do you break bad news to a good friend? It’s a friend that I’ve known for a long time. I’m unsure of whether I should be the one to do it or if I should turn the other cheek.”

Giving bad news to anyone is never easy. Especially to a good friend. I guess it would depend on the kind of bad news that you have to deliver. There are a few things that you have to consider.

Will giving the bad news hurt your relationship?

Is there a chance that your friend will blame you or get upset with you? Sometimes it is easier for another person to give the bad news. How will your friend benefit from being informed?

Depending on the nature of the bad news how do you think you will feel afterwards? If you will feel relieved and think that your friend will appreciate knowing sharing the news might be best.

Be strategic in your delivery. Depending on what kind of friend that you have will determine how you will deliver the news. There are some friends that might be able to handle bad news more easily than others.

Think about the types of friends that you have. You have those that are tough and can take it. There are those too that might feel shattered and lost once you tell them.

How would you handle bad news?

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Slowing Down Enough To Be Grateful

Ever wake up to a new day in a frenzy?

You immediately think of every task that you need to accomplish. I can promise you that there will always be laundry to do, dishes to wash or errands to run.

How do you find time to be grateful for the small things though?

You have to remember to be present in the moment. Ever have a conversation with someone and not remember anything that they said? Or picture that reversed.

When has that happened to you?

We live in a world where we are constantly in a hurry. To get to the next thing on our lists of things that should get done. When we live in this state of mind that is when we miss out on the small things.

The small things really aren’t all that little if you think about it. They are usually the moments that we encounter with those that we love. They are opportunities of happy living that can either fall in our lap or fall out of our grasp if we aren’t paying attention.

Chances where we can create meaningful memories. Think of your life as a scrapbook. Each space on the page can represent a special moment.

What do your pages look like?

Remember that your pages will include times that might not make you feel grateful. How do you put yourself in a place where you can express gratitude?

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Ask Lucy

This week in Ask Lucy the question comes from Sonia.

“Growing up it was easier to make friends easily wherever that you went. As a grown up this has been a challenging thing for me. How do you make friends as a grown up?”

I love this question Sonia because I am all about making new friends. It was so much easier as a little kid to make friends. You see when you are a kid anything goes.

Go to any public park and watch kids from all walks of life play with each other. No judgements are being made most of the time. They interact with each other for the same reasons. To play with each other and have a good time while doing it.

Don’t you wish that were still the case as an adult?

As a grown up you have become seasoned to the world. You are more aware of what you do and don’t like in people. As adults you tend to be a bit more selective and cautious with people in general.

Are you a shy person or do you like to mingle and get to know people?

From your question, I’m going to guess that maybe you can be a little shy. There is nothing wrong with being shy. What are your interests as an adult? Do you have any children?

Think of the things that you like to do. What are your hobbies and interests outside of work or the home?

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Remembering Mom on Mother’s Day

Ever feel like you were the luckiest to have your mom as your best friend?

I read about this topic all of the time. Most of the time it has to do with younger kids and that a mom shouldn’t be your best friend. However, when you’re an adult as I am, then I cherish that additional title for my mom. She truly is my biggest fan.

You see without her where would I truly be today. In this very moment. Would I have the desire to pursue my dreams in the way that I have? To marry when I did and start a family too? I don’t think so.

My mom has been so influential and supportive all of my life. That is why I truly feel lucky. To have a relationship of such understanding and meaning with her.

Mothers have the pleasure of raising their children and guiding them each step of the way. It’s part of their role in helping us find our way. I’m forever grateful to her for that.

I hold many memories of my mom. She has this incredible sense of humor and she makes small talk wherever she goes. The gift of gab is her specialty and any stranger that she talks with will feel they have known her for a long time.

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Making The Best Out Of Girl Time

Ever find yourself wishing for girl time with your friends?

If you are like me you have more than one best friend. We get so caught up in our daily routines that we neglect making time for our friends. Not on purpose, but because we lead busy lives.

Some of my most memorable times have been with my friends. Getting together with them always means having a good time and making new memories with each other. It’s a time where you can be yourself, talk about your dreams, goals, daily life, kids, family and so much more.

My friends have made it to my inner circle and are a part of my tribe. Your tribe consists of the friends that have your back no matter what. When your life falls apart they are there. When your life is going great they continue to lift you up.

It’s important for you to look at making time to hang out. Never rule out the power of a quick hello on the phone, but meeting in person helps a lot too.

How do you make the effort to get together then?

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