Blogging weekly this past year has taught me how to be consistent. I have connected with some amazing people and made new friendships.
Do you have a dream that you have put on hold?
What a lot of people don’t realize is that all dreams take time. Not everyone starts out rolling in the dough. It’s not about that anyway. Making money is important eventually, but the main reason should be more than that.
It should be something that you are passionate about. It’s that one thing that you can’t wait to get up and start each day.
I have friends that almost gave up on their dream and quitting seemed like the logical choice. These were women with full-time jobs and families. There was plenty of balancing on what to do and what not to do.
“I live a very busy life. I work full-time, have a family and feel as though I’m pulled in so many directions. How do I take the chaos out of my day-to-day and still stop to smell the roses?”
Being a busy mother with a full schedule can feel overwhelming at times. I can relate, but am blessed that our children our older and independent. However, as a mom you will always be needed. Not only as a mother, but also as a wife and friend.
Is it possible to find a healthy balance?
The answer is yes. Find out what is making you feel as if you can’t do it all. Identify the things that are causing you stress. I have found that it helps to delegate some duties to other members of my family. Whether it is my spouse or our children.
Find out what works best for you and your family. If you had the opportunity to stop and smell the roses what would you do?
Reinventing myself through the eyes of a lens was a great feeling. You see before launching my blog I didn’t feel comfortable taking photos. I’m not ashamed to say that because it is part of my story. It is what is unique to me as an individual. If you want the story behind that see the link at the end of this post.
Here is what happens when you are a creative. You start thinking of your vision. You imagine what you want to create and then how you will create it.
On this journey, you must be willing to do things outside of the norm. For me it was getting all dressed up with a beautiful dress.
Along the way you find people who will see that vision and then make it a reality. That is what I did when I sought out to find my photographer for my first-year blog anniversary. I knew that this photo shoot would have to be as incredible as my first one.
I was looking to have fun and simply be comfortable in my own skin. Trusting someone else to do my makeup is something that I have been working on. Letting go and not being in control is a big deal.
I have found that I must trust the process and do it anyway. The great thing about doing it is that I get to see how others see me.
What I found most fun was deciding what to wear. I have always been a big fan of vintage clothing. This was an opportunity to indulge in it. Over the summer I was introduced to Canela Vintage based out of San Antonio, Texas.
Your mindset plays a powerful role in getting out of your comfort zone. When you look in the mirror that is the person that determines your actions. The things that you will either talk yourself into doing or talk yourself out of doing.
There is power in convincing yourself in the things that you can do. At the same time not believing in yourself has an equal amount of power too.
It is nice to know that you alone dictate what you will do. By changing the way that you think you can achieve your desired results. If you keep telling yourself you can’t do something then you won’t.
Is it easier said than done?
At times, it can be depending on the goal that you have. For instance, recently I had to do something in my workout that I was afraid of trying. It was a box jump.
The minute that I saw that on my list to do I wanted to run in the opposite direction. A lot of things crossed my mind. What if fail at trying?
“I have been trying to be successful as an entrepreneur, but am having trouble staying motivated. I love what I do, but still feel like I’m not good enough. I see other people who are way more successful than I am. This makes me feel intimidated and makes me feel like going back to a 9-5 job. At least that is reliable. I have to admit I do feel like quitting. How do I get myself out of this slump?”
I would love to say that I can relate to all that you are saying, but I also have a current day job myself. I would enjoy being in your shoes, but I do know that it does come with a price.
Being an entrepeneur takes commitment, dedication, focus and sacrifice. Maybe you left your day job that provided a safety net and you pursued your calling.
First of all congratulations for taking the leap. That is a big deal! That takes a lot of guts. It sounds like you might be experiencing a little bit of imposter syndrome.
This is where you do not feel qualified to do what you are doing. When you start comparing yourself to others you fall victim to this. You perceive them as more successful and then start losing your worth in the process.
It’s that time of year again as students get ready to go back to school. Here is a chance to talk about back to school goals. Students need to know that they have your support with a new school year.
Have you talked about new school year goals with your child?
If your child is in elementary school start out by asking simple questions. Ask what he or she hopes to learn with the new school year. Maybe they want to become a better reader or become more proficient in math.
Write it down on a piece of notebook paper and hang it up on the fridge. This way they will be able to see it as a reminder daily. Their reward will be checking off each goal as they complete it.
Evaluate Goals After One Month
If your child gets off track after a month or so sit down and talk about their goals again. Always ask how their day went. Make it a point to talk about the good and the bad things.
Getting the chance to release it all helps get it off their chest and then it becomes easier to refocus on the things that are important to them.
When your child is in middle school or high school it is a good idea that they get plenty of sleep. Tips for success include: being organized, having bottled water throughout the day and being on time. It is about going back to the basics.
I have always admired people who can go on rope courses and who can go zip lining. It takes a certain level of bravery to do that. Personally, I have had a fear of heights ever since I can remember.
It took me quite some time to even attempt getting on a plane. However, if I ever wanted to get anywhere I knew that I had to get used to it. Over the years I noticed I’m not quite the thrill seeker when it comes to certain rollercoasters either.
That was teenage life. When you lived life without fear. It was easier to do those kind of things way back then.
I met Amanda McClellan at the Southern Womens Show and she told me about Treerunner Adventure opening up in the summer. She invited me to come out and give it a try sometime.
Here are some facts about me. I’m afraid of heights, but I still ride rollercoasters and have taken a helicopter ride. I love both. However, I don’t try to go to the third floor at my job unless I have to. If I do then I walk up the steps on the wall side versus the rail side.
Sounds weird right?
Meeting Amanda must have been fate because the next thing I knew we were collaborating and setting it up on our calendars. I recruited my business bestie Linda Mendible to shoot my pics.
Treerunner Adventure Park is located at 12804 Norwood Rd. in Raleigh, NC. It was super easy to get to and a short drive for me to get there. I scheduled my visit in the morning and was fortunate to have two other ladies in my group Beverly and Lee. It was their first time too.
We were introduced to Cole Whittaker who took us through the basics of the equipment and a mini rope course. The clips attached to my lanyard were a little tricky at first. After a few tries it got easier. The good news is that everyone gets to practice before they attempt the real course.
Did I mention that this whole time I was stepping out of my comfort zone?
This week in Ask Lucy the question comes from Lori.
“I am a mother of two kids and work full-time. I’m also a wife, a friend and I am constantly doing stuff. I would love to start getting fit, but I do a lot of self-sabotaging. I’m tired of making excuses. I lack motivation and often wonder what I would look like if I had the body that I used to have before my beautiful children. I want to keep the spice alive as a wife, but am not sure where to go from here. My husband says that he loved me then and still loves me now. If I could start some kind of routine and diet I know that would boost my self-esteem. What can I do to get on the right track this time?”
First of all let me start by saying thank you for reaching out to me. It takes a lot of courage to bring up wanting to get fit and explaining what you have gone through. Your situation is so relatable to many.
I know it is tough when you work a full-time job plus have a family to take care of. Luckily our children are older and very independent. Don’t let that fool you though because you will always be needed. That’s not a bad thing either, I welcome it.
Start by making a list of the reasons why you want to get fit. What do you hope to gain from it? I’m not talking about pounds either. Think about the reasons why fitness would be good for you.
What would happen if you were to shed the weight and tone up?
I have found that your fitness journey is what you make of it. You can join any program, try any diet, watch a ton of videos on fitness, but in the end it is up to you.
You will always get advice on what to do and what not to do. If you work out diligently three times a week and then continue to eat the way that you’re used to guess what happens? You don’t see the results that you are looking for.
There is so much advice on the ways that will help you accomplish your goals. You can google information at a click of a button. It is always at your disposal.
I have read some great articles on honing your craft in writing, blogging, marketing, fitness, business and archery too. Who doesn’t want to improve and become their best?
Reading these type of articles or posts is a learning experience. I have learned that my dreams and goals are unique to me. Do I yearn for getting to “peach gang” status with my glutes someday or becoming a New York Times best-selling author?
I would love that, but in the meantime I am accountable for myself and in the way that I get there. Although it is easy to enter the comparison game it doesn’t have to be a competition.
Imagine a marathon runner. Who are they running for? Many times it is for a special event, but deep down they are running for themselves. To get to the end of the road on their own.
Marathon runners put in the work, the sweat and the time. They prep in advance by dedicating all that it takes. To ensure that they will be their absolute best on the day of their marathon.