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Doing More of What You Love

Doing More of What You Love

Each day is a chance to doing more of what you love. Looking at your days of the week may show you a pattern. You might notice that you are doing the same things throughout the week. How do you break out of that cycle?

This doesn’t mean you abandon your responsibilities, but rather explore ways to add value to your day. Maybe you have thought of visiting a place on your wish list. It could be something small or something that you need to plan.

With careful thought you could find yourself doing more things that make you happy. Maybe you are waiting for your significant other to take the lead. Instead you pour yourself into being busier. One word of advice: stop and instead you take the lead.

If you work, you may find that you are too busy to plan outside of your normal routine. People often make it harder than what it is. You could look at your day in two ways.

You work a set number of hours. Then you go on to other responsibilities whether that is on your own or with your family or significant other. The second way is to carve out some time where you get to enjoy something different.

Maybe that is getting together with a friend. If you are a parent maybe you try something new with your kids. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it does have to provide enjoyment. You can work the daily grind and do it all over the next day or you could change up your routine today.

Don’t neglect the signs around you

What if you neglect noticing the signs around you that you miss out on it?

It happens all the time. Especially if you work a 9-5 job. A friend asks you to get together, your child asks to spend time with you or a loved one hints for some quality time together. How many times have you missed out on a chance to make memories?

Those are the things that you’ll remember you loved doing. Put your cell phone down, get off your laptop and give in to these moments. They are the things that will make you happier.

Change up the way that you do things. See a movie during the week instead of the weekend. Eat at a special restaurant instead of waiting for your birthday. Say yes to an invite instead of wondering if you should go or not.

It’s okay to continue working hard at your job and on your dreams. Although it’s important to remember that we all get the same hours in one day, in one month and in one year.

Give yourself time to indulge in the little things, the big things and anything else in between. Feeling more fulfilled at the end of the day will be your reward. You’ll be able to go to bed with a smile on your face.

If you could do more of what you love today, what would it be?

Lucy Brummett
Enjoying my first photo shoot. It was a blast!

Ask Lucy: Finding Balance in the Chaos

This weeks question comes from Natalie.

“I live a very busy life. I work full-time, have a family and feel as though I’m pulled in so many directions. How do I take the chaos out of my day-to-day and still stop to smell the roses?”

Being a busy mother with a full schedule can feel overwhelming at times. I can relate, but am blessed that our children our older and independent. However, as a mom you will always be needed. Not only as a mother, but also as a wife and friend.

Is it possible to find a healthy balance?

The answer is yes. Find out what is making you feel as if you can’t do it all. Identify the things that are causing you stress. I have found that it helps to delegate some duties to other members of my family. Whether it is my spouse or our children.

Find out what works best for you and your family. If you had the opportunity to stop and smell the roses what would you do?

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New School Year Requires New Goals

New School Year Requires New Goals

It’s that time of year again as students get ready to go back to school. Here is a chance to talk about back to school goals. Students need to know that they have your support with a new school year.

Have you talked about new school year goals with your child?

If your child is in elementary school start out by asking simple questions. Ask what he or she hopes to learn with the new school year. Maybe they want to become a better reader or become more proficient in math.

Write it down on a piece of notebook paper and hang it up on the fridge. This way they will be able to see it as a reminder daily. Their reward will be checking off each goal as they complete it.

Evaluate Goals After One Month

If your child gets off track after a month or so sit down and talk about their goals again. Always ask how their day went. Make it a point to talk about the good and the bad things.

Getting the chance to release it all helps get it off their chest and then it becomes easier to refocus on the things that are important to them.

When your child is in middle school or high school it is a good idea that they get plenty of sleep. Tips for success include: being organized, having bottled water throughout the day and being on time. It is about going back to the basics.

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Ask Lucy: How Do I Get Him To Notice Me Again?

This week in Ask Lucy the question comes from Alexis.

“I have been married to my husband for many years and we have two teen children. We both work and find it difficult to make time as a couple. Actually I suggest going out, but all I get in return are excuses that he is too busy with work. I’m not trying to be shallow, but I also stay fit with exercise to continue being attractive for him. How do I get him to notice me again and have him look at me the way that he did when he fell in love with me? I’m grateful for our marriage, but not feeling that he realizes I’m still sexy and need that time alone with him outside of our house.”

Ah! This is a good question! Being together in a marriage for so many years takes a lot of work. I know from my own experience. As couples we tend to get busier as our children get older.

Having a family to take care of and working full-time can seem overwhelming. It doesn’t mean that you both don’t still have the wow factor though. I bet he notices you more than you think. Marriage comes with its trials and tribulations.

Some men are awesome about letting their wife know how beautiful that she still is. Yet, there are others that don’t do that, but that doesn’t mean that they are bad people. These type of men have a different way of expressing how they feel.

Stop and think of all of the wonderful qualities that your husband possesses. What made you fall in love with him? Think back to the day that you felt those butterflies in your stomach.

Do you remember how that made you feel?

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Ask Lucy

This week in Ask Lucy the question comes from Lori.

“I am a mother of two kids and work full-time. I’m also a wife, a friend and I am constantly doing stuff. I would love to start getting fit, but I do a lot of self-sabotaging. I’m tired of making excuses. I lack motivation and often wonder what I would look like if I had the body that I used to have before my beautiful children. I want to keep the spice alive as a wife, but am not sure where to go from here. My husband says that he loved me then and still loves me now. If I could start some kind of routine and diet I know that would boost my self-esteem. What can I do to get on the right track this time?”

First of all let me start by saying thank you for reaching out to me. It takes a lot of courage to bring up wanting to get fit and explaining what you have gone through. Your situation is so relatable to many.

I know it is tough when you work a full-time job plus have a family to take care of. Luckily our children are older and very independent. Don’t let that fool you though because you will always be needed. That’s not a bad thing either, I welcome it.

Start by making a list of the reasons why you want to get fit. What do you hope to gain from it? I’m not talking about pounds either. Think about the reasons why fitness would be good for you.

What would happen if you were to shed the weight and tone up?

I have found that your fitness journey is what you make of it. You can join any program, try any diet, watch a ton of videos on fitness, but in the end it is up to you.

You will always get advice on what to do and what not to do. If you work out diligently three times a week and then continue to eat the way that you’re used to guess what happens? You don’t see the results that you are looking for.

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Slowing Down Enough To Be Grateful

Ever wake up to a new day in a frenzy?

You immediately think of every task that you need to accomplish. I can promise you that there will always be laundry to do, dishes to wash or errands to run.

How do you find time to be grateful for the small things though?

You have to remember to be present in the moment. Ever have a conversation with someone and not remember anything that they said? Or picture that reversed.

When has that happened to you?

We live in a world where we are constantly in a hurry. To get to the next thing on our lists of things that should get done. When we live in this state of mind that is when we miss out on the small things.

The small things really aren’t all that little if you think about it. They are usually the moments that we encounter with those that we love. They are opportunities of happy living that can either fall in our lap or fall out of our grasp if we aren’t paying attention.

Chances where we can create meaningful memories. Think of your life as a scrapbook. Each space on the page can represent a special moment.

What do your pages look like?

Remember that your pages will include times that might not make you feel grateful. How do you put yourself in a place where you can express gratitude?

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Ask Lucy

This week in Ask Lucy the question comes from Sonia.

“Growing up it was easier to make friends easily wherever that you went. As a grown up this has been a challenging thing for me. How do you make friends as a grown up?”

I love this question Sonia because I am all about making new friends. It was so much easier as a little kid to make friends. You see when you are a kid anything goes.

Go to any public park and watch kids from all walks of life play with each other. No judgements are being made most of the time. They interact with each other for the same reasons. To play with each other and have a good time while doing it.

Don’t you wish that were still the case as an adult?

As a grown up you have become seasoned to the world. You are more aware of what you do and don’t like in people. As adults you tend to be a bit more selective and cautious with people in general.

Are you a shy person or do you like to mingle and get to know people?

From your question, I’m going to guess that maybe you can be a little shy. There is nothing wrong with being shy. What are your interests as an adult? Do you have any children?

Think of the things that you like to do. What are your hobbies and interests outside of work or the home?

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Ways To Provide Summer Learning Fun

Pretty soon the kids will be out for summer fun. Are you ready to have them continue learning throughout their time off? It is a great time to keep them engaged in learning if you prep ahead of time.

The local library was always a great way for my kids to read over the summer. They had the chance to participate in a summer contest and earn a trophy. If you were a kid and you wanted to win that trophy you ended up reading and fulfilling the required time that it took.

You see summer has its perks. There are plenty of learning opportunities if you find out what is available. Ask other moms to see where they have gone or plan on going to. If you live in an area close to museums look into that also.

Our hometown in Ohio happened to include the home of President Rutherford B. Hayes. It was great to be able to walk on the property and visit the museum there. A part of history that we were fortunate enough to learn about. Spiegel Grove as it is known will always hold some fond memories.

We live in an age of high technology. Technology is great, but disconnecting for a little bit is good too. Revert to the ways in how things used to be. Let your kids get outdoors and get dirty. Know the best times to include technology.

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