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3 Ways Networking Can Spark Growth

3 Ways Networking Can Spark Growth

Growth with your dream takes time. There are some things that you must do alone and some that include doing a bit more. I have found 3 ways networking can spark growth.

First, get out of your comfort zone for starters. It is so much easier to stay within the confines of what you are used to. It’s predictable though and holds no mystery.

However, when you branch out by networking it adds a new element to your plan. There is something to be said for getting around other like-minded individuals. They bring excitement to your goals.

Get in front of other people

By getting in front of other people you open up your potential. You start making connections with people. Sometimes those connections become valued friendships.

Not only are you helping sharpen up your networking skills, but you end up helping others too. Not everyone looks forward to meeting new people. The world consists of both introverts and extroverts.

Connecting with new individuals creates an opportunity to learn from them as well. You never know who you will end up helping in return.

Immersing yourself with networking sparks your creative spirit. Maybe talking with someone that is doing something like what you are doing can fuel your desire to keep going. Listening to a different way that someone talks about your craft can help broaden your vision.

Any time that you are on your own it’s easy to think that your way is the only way. Opportunities to learn from others happens when you take the chance. That often means getting out there and being around other people.

I have made it a point to network whenever possible. Luckily, I have attended a couple of What Women Want National Conferences and I made some wonderful friends that way. Listening to keynote speakers to hear about how they got started with their dream fascinates me.

You gain confidence in yourself

The second way is that networking gives you confidence. Even if you are the type that wants to take flight and retreat it can happen. If you stick around long enough to find out that is. Once you face your inner self-talk and give yourself a pep talk it happens.

By doing something that feels strange, awkward and uncomfortable you break the habit. That habit could be you avoiding networking opportunities. Each time that you participate you learn what worked and what didn’t.

Going to a networking event means that you may not know it all, but you go for it anyway. You break the ice a little each time that you go. You let down your guard enough to start feeling confident to do so.

Gain success by following up

Last but not least is the third-way networking can spark your growth. Once that you attend a networking event it is easy to collect a business card and forget about it. Instead, go over the cards that benefit you the most. What kind of people attended the event that you could follow up with?

Maybe it is someone that is doing something like what you are doing. Possibly it is someone that could use your services or the other way around. Don’t be afraid to help other people. Maybe that contact isn’t for you, but you know someone that could benefit from their services. Right there you will be helping a couple of people.

Following up after a networking event isn’t always about you. It can mean more than that. When you contact someone remember to thank them for speaking with you at the event. Take it from there and the rest will follow.

Networking gives you an opportunity to do all these things. It inspires and motivates you to keep on going and get you excited again. It is like taking in a breath of fresh air.

Give it a chance, think positive and enjoy yourself. Find the kind of events that work best for you. I have definitely found my kind of events and I know that you will too.

Starting Your Dream Before A New Year

Starting Your Dream Before A New Year

Here we are in November 2018. A month where you celebrate by being thankful and you look forward to the big feast. It is also a time to think about starting your dream before a new year.

Let me tell you why November is the perfect time to start. First, you owe it to yourself to begin. Starting something that you have always thought of doing is rewarding.

It is going towards that thing that has been keeping you up at night. Only you know what that is. At this time of year, helps you look at how fast time has flown.

Have you spent it doing what you are passionate about?

Time to reflect

If you haven’t, ask yourself why not? I like to reflect on how far I have come with writing for instance. I go back to the beginning of the year.

This helps me gauge my progress to date. If you haven’t started your dream yet it is a good exercise to start doing. Look at how you have spent your time so far.

Where might you omit things that aren’t benefiting you?

Most might look at all these months and notice that they all had some things in common. Perhaps that was working a 9-5 job, raising a family, being a wife or significant other. These are the usual things.

Start the process

However, what step could you start taking now? Some type of action that requires you to go for it. Look at it as a way to stop not put it off until the new year is underway. Your time is now.

It is like someone giving you the head start. When in fact that person is you. You give yourself permission to start that diet, begin that side business or a brand-new career altogether.

Maybe it is starting the process to register for college and go back to school. It could be that you have always wanted to start a hobby. What is it that you want to start today?

If you have already started the process but have been procrastinating, get back on track. You would be surprised at what you can do before the start of 2019. That is what keeps me going.

Knowing the time that I still have left to submit articles. The opportunity to publish new content, freelance as a proofreader and so many other things under my writer life. I love knowing that I can still finish strong in 2018.

The same holds true for you. All it takes is that initial first step towards that thing that beckons you. Think of it as a gift that is waiting to be opened.

Are you ready to reveal what is underneath all that sparkly gift wrap? I know that I am.

3 Tips to Help You Stay Consistent

3 Tips to Help You Stay Consistent

It takes careful planning to win with any diet, complete a project or stay the course as an entrepreneur. I came up with 3 tips to help you stay consistent.  As a writer, I have noticed my highs and lows. Also, I have seen the same trend with my fitness goals.

To become better at something, you must stay consistent. Ever notice that happens when you first start a diet? However, the minute that you slip you fall back into your old habits and you are back to square one.

It helps by starting off with a few steps. Habits take time to become successful. The most important thing is to begin the process.

Writing it down

First, get out a notebook and write down your plan. Think of the steps that you need to put into place. The things that will take you from point A to point B. It doesn’t have to be complicated.

The main idea is to get it all down on paper. This simple step will help you reap the rewards in the short and the long term. Plus, it’s a great way to become organized with your thoughts.

Reevaluate your “why”

Second, ask yourself why it’s important for you to stay consistent. This triggers your “why.” What’s in it for you? Maybe you are doing something for yourself or for someone else. Whatever it is figure out why you want to keep doing it.

If it is a new fitness routine, why do you need to be consistent? Could it be because you were bored with what you were doing? Maybe your old routine wasn’t working for you. Possibly the routine wasn’t the real reason it didn’t work.

That is how consistency plays a big factor in all that you are trying to succeed at. How many times have you started and not finished something because it got too hard? It’s about creating new habits and shedding the ones that didn’t work.

Believe that you can

Finally, the third thing is to believe in yourself. You can’t become consistent if you don’t. Faith in what you are trying to do is everything. Do whatever it takes to instill it in your heart, mind, and spirit.

When you start doing that it makes you more confident. It doesn’t mean that some things may not scare or intimidate you, but you will be ready for those moments. Confidence will help you project it from the inside out. It ends up becoming more visible in your life.

Consistency  is what will get you closer to the completion of your goals. It’s a partnership that you create with yourself. You make a pact to get it done.

You make it a point to show up even on the days that you don’t feel like it. Remember 2018 isn’t over yet. You have plenty of time to get into the process.

So, here’s to you for what you are about to recommit to. Think about how much better you’ll be for it. Taking a piece of what is important to you and making it the best that it can be.

Conferences Propel You Forward

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Judy Goss and Kristin West doing what they do best.

Conferences Propel You Forward

Ever get back from a conference fired up to apply everything that you learned? If you haven’t then I highly recommend that you consider the What Women Want National Conference in 2019. I came back from this conference so excited to move forward with my dreams and goals.

The theme this year was to Go Big.  Judy Goss put together a conference that had something for everyone. There were a variety of speakers and breakout sessions to choose from.

When you consider attending a conference do your research and be open-minded to what is being taught. There is always something valuable that you can take away from it.

Remember that not every single part of a conference may be a fit for you. This usually depends on the topic and who it is geared towards. Examine the parts that you think might be for you. How can you apply them to what you are doing now?

Fitness and Inspiration

Cathryn Marshall of Simple Fat Burn was a great speaker talking about diet, nutrition and fitness. All things that I am familiar with. I was reminded that I needed to up my water intake. She talked about sugar being in a lot of foods including some fruits and vegetables.

Even 10 minutes of exercise at home is beneficial. It is easy to make things more complicated than what they must be. She reminded us about getting our daily dose of greens too.

Nikki Walter was there with her daughter Addie to talk about their journey. There were some heartfelt moments throughout her story. It’s easy to be inspired by such a beautiful woman that is a hard worker and still finds a way to balance it all.

She was the perfect example of someone holding down a full-time job, a fitness powerhouse and a wonderful mom. The kind of woman that gives other women hope that they can do it too.

Lesley Jane Seymour was a great speaker as well. I connected with her talk. She is all about reinvention in middle age through her platform called Covey Club. I enjoyed her strength and examples of being resilient through some hard times.

Amy Newmark publisher of Chicken Soup for the Soul shared inspiration from some of her books. I have been a huge fan for many years. I couldn’t leave without asking her for a tip on writing for her someday.

The good news is that her tip resonated with me especially on my flight home.  I was reading one of the stories when there was a light bulb moment for me. That is what many people can take away from attending a conference. That golden nugget that will be the game changer.

We all have those epiphanies when we are strongly engaged to a speaker. It is about being a listener first, asking questions and then applying those principles. Without the application you stay in the same place.

Put in the Work

Anyone can attend a conference, but not everyone will do the work afterwards. I know that I wasn’t going to be that person that didn’t. Have you ever attended a conference that made you want to do more? Aside from learning things you get the opportunity to network.

You get the chance to establish new friendships. The in between moments when you can talk with each other are the best. People tell you their story and their plans.

What I loved about this conference is that it made you want to go after your goals. This time it made me feel more determined more than ever. Let’s face it when you hit midlife you start realizing that you don’t have all the time in the world.

So, to all the younger people out there go for it! For all my midlife people keep going and don’t stop. You will reap the rewards before you know it.

Forget Excuses

If you are looking to change your current situation find a conference near you. Buddy up with a friend. Start local then eventually travel to one that is 6 hours or less from you.

Don’t make up all the excuses of why you can’t. I almost wasn’t going to be at this conference this year. However, I made the decision to do whatever it took to be there.

Your Time Is Now

Judy Goss is someone that I admire and respect so much that I knew I had to be there. I am so grateful to her for what she has created and this community of women helps us empower each other. Attending a conference like this makes us see the bigger picture.

Yes, your time is now because we all get the same number of hours in a day. I left this conference feeling so pumped up to Go Big. I can tell you that a year went by fast since I attended last year’s conference. It may be Fall of 2018, but so much can be accomplished before the end of this year.

Will you be willing to do what it takes too?

A Second Blog Anniversary Keeps Me Going

A Second Blog Anniversary Keeps Me Going

 

Pursuing a dream is comparable to the work that you put in when you work out. You have a combination of sweat, tears and continuous hard work. It’s an almost love/hate relationship. Here I am, and I’ve arrived at the second year of my Blog Anniversary.

Time has surely flown on by. Every single step has been worth it. That is how far your passion takes you when you are willing. I stress on the word willing because that is the game changer.

Some people don’t know that I’ve been a writer for so many years. I was a writer before I ever became a blogger. I wrote for free for a while before I made a dime at writing.

However, my commitment is what has kept me going. Have I always been committed? Well I can tell you that I didn’t always feel like staying committed. There is a difference.

You could say that I took a hiatus from writing on a regular basis. Now that I’ve hit mid-life I realize that I don’t have any time to waste. No waiting for the right time either.

It’s a sink or swim mentality. Sounds harsh doesn’t it. That is what it takes to make it with anything that you’ve never done.

Have you ever felt like quitting something because it got too hard?

Keep Going Do It Anyway

That is what a dream does for you. You face the unknowns like a leaf shaking in the wind. You stumble and fall through all the uncertainties but manage to get back up.

You keep on going despite how hard it gets. These past couple of years has taught me about: grit, patience, gratitude, doubt, excitement, being consistent and staying committed to the course.

I have a strong passion for writing inspirational posts and articles that make you feel good. It gives me a lot of joy when a reader tells me something resonated with them. That right there is why I write.

If I can touch a heart, then I’ve done my job. I am super grateful for the friendships that I have made through blogging and for the wonderful opportunities that have come my way.

Be Willing to Continue Learning

I’m continually learning new things. You’d better believe there is never a dull moment. I still don’t know everything, and I’m blessed to work with Linda Mendible because she helps with the behind the scenes that I may not know the answer to with technology. On top of that she is an experienced blogger as well. She is my saving grace.

Honestly, I wouldn’t want to know how to do everything. Part of the excitement with a dream is learning along the way. You figure out what works and what doesn’t. If you can’t do it alone then you ask for help.

I’m finally at a point where I am working on my own book after all these years.  I also started my own podcast Arrows & Lattes on top of everything else. That’s the beauty of sticking with something and staying consistent. Sometimes I’m curious about the future and what it will bring my way.

In the meantime, I focus on what I can bring to the table. I aim to inspire, encourage and make a difference whenever I can. If I can pursue my dream all while having a family and a full-time job, then you can follow your dream too.

So, here’s to my second year doing what I love and celebrating my blog anniversary. A huge thank you to all that have come along the journey with me. I know my muse is proud of me, but most importantly so am I.

3 Ways A Birthday Inspires You To Keep Going

3 Ways A Birthday Inspires You To Keep Going

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Often people dread getting older. Especially, during midlife. They feel the clock ticking and it starts to feel like a race. In this post I’ll share my 3 ways a birthday inspires you to keep going.

Embrace Your Age

Embrace the age you are now in this moment and stage in your life. Pull out a notebook and list the things that you love doing. Do any of those things inspire you? They should if you love them.

Some of the things that you enjoyed 10 years ago might not be what you enjoy anymore. As you grow older you start to evolve into a different person. There is a beauty in that when you discover what makes you happy now.

Think about where you are now with the activities that you find yourself drawn to. Maybe you participate in a sport that you weren’t sure of as a kid. I was that kid and now I’m an archer.

Getting another birthday under your belt gives you more opportunities. You get to decide what will inspire you to do things that were forgotten or postponed.

Complete the Things on Your Bucket List

Remember all the stuff that you always thought you’d do. Yes, I’m talking about your bucket list. Do you want to travel the world? Set up a plan to go on your dream destination one step at a time.

If you don’t have the finances, start saving little by little. Examine your bucket list and see what you can do right now. Sometimes it’s not as hard as you think.

Look at having another birthday as a reason to celebrate what makes you unique. If you compared your bucket list with someone else’s how would it be different?

Set up a plan to make these wishes a reality. That should excite you and motivate you to get the ball rolling. Talk with a loved one to help you figure it out.

Keep Moving Forward

You have reached a milestone with a birthday. What are you grateful for? Think of the memories that you have made in the past year. What inspires you to keep moving forward?

Often there are people that could use a thank you. In your circle of loved ones and friends who has shown you the most love and support with your endeavors? Pick up the phone and say thank you.

Get together with the people that you are grateful for having in your life. They matter just as much as you do.

Here’s to another birthday whether you have already celebrated or have one coming up. We all get those candles on our cake. They serve to remind us that we still have time to make those wishes.

So, make your wish and keep moving towards that thing you are meant to accomplish.

Are you ready?

 

Glamping Made Special on Solo Retreat

The following is a sponsored post with Glampers Paradise.

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Inside the Peacock Mansion

Glamping Made Special on Solo Retreat

Imagine for a moment going on a glamping mini vacation. I found this on my solo retreat at Glampers Paradise. What is glamping? It is a way to enjoy the outdoors with a touch of glamour and wonderful amenities.

Upon my arrival Jennifer Waller greeted me outside in front of her gorgeous patio. It was awesome to finally get to meet her in person. I knew by the location that I was going to enjoy my stay.

I sat down with her to talk about her beautiful Airbnb. It is a place where women can rejuvenate, rest and rediscover themselves. As women get older and especially during midlife it is important to find that balance.

Some of them are women that are becoming empty nesters, have a full-time job and are married or single. Women that are undergoing these transitions tend to feel overwhelmed. They have raised their children and now ponder over what comes next in their life.

I loved the personalized touches. She had a lap desk ready for me because she knew that I was a writer. Plus, coffee and tea. The small plate snacks were delicious. I can’t say enough about her green juice in the mason jar. So good!

Her Shasta travel trailer is called the Peacock Mansion.  You will see her peacock decor throughout her outdoor space and in her trailer.

Green juice

Glampers Paradise is a place that offers relaxation and serves as a way to unplug. Also, as an opportunity to indulge in some self-love by booking a photo shoot. It’s the kind of place that you don’t want to ever leave from.

Playing dress up

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Feeling like a goddess in my blue dress.

Remember playing dress up as a little girl? That is exactly what I did only grown up style.

I had the chance to put on some beautiful dresses and lovely statement jewelry. Jennifer had a way of making me feel right at home. She was the type of lady that I would have loved to have grown up with.

We had a wonderful evening with a fire too. It was so easy to unwind with a glass of red wine. Being outdoors under the stars and having an inspiring talk.

It reminded me of a slumber party. Guests can interact as much or as little they’d like to. I’m a people person so I loved spending time with Jennifer. I found out more about her as a person and with her other business venture that I will cover in a future post or in my podcast.

The photo shoot made it feel that more special. When you are wearing a long gown, you feel empowered. You feel sexy and most of all you feel worthy.

Worthy enough to indulge in getting pampered and most of all simply being still. Rediscovering yourself without the to do list, daily distractions or being pulled away from yourself.

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Beauty in the woods at Glampers Paradise

It’s okay to say yes

“You don’t need permission to kind of escape for two days and two nights and put yourself first.” When Jennifer said that I could immediately relate to it.  What woman hasn’t felt guilty about putting herself first?

It was a place where you could pause and breathe. All while being surrounded by beautiful things. That is what she hopes women will experience during their stay.

From the Peacock Mansion offering privacy or the outdoor space you will find tranquility. There is something that will resonate with you. They offer romantic stays as well.

The milk bath was the most relaxing way to end my stay.

When was the last time that you did something special? Doing something for yourself is worth doing. When you take care of yourself you are at your best for others.

Forget the mom guilt and leave it at home. Staying at Glampers Paradise will be just what you needed. Be prepared to feel welcomed. There is so much more than meets the eye here.

Maybe it’ll be the soul searching or revisiting that dream of yours from childhood. I tell you the possibilities are endless.

Don’t you owe it to yourself to discover that?

I know that I did and can’t wait to explore those possibilities again. Very soon too I might add.

A Supportive Community Strengthens Your Dream

A Supportive Community Strengthens Your Dream

A supportive community strengthens your dream. Building a community helps you tackle on tough projects. Those projects can consist of big and small goals. Surrounding yourself with folks that get what you are doing is crucial.

First thing to accept is that those closest to you may not always have your vision. That is okay. It’s not for everyone.

Look for people that are on a similar path. Network when you can whether that is work related or socially. Be genuine when you do it.

Be that person that lifts and empowers someone else. The type of person that someone else can look up to and appreciate.

Get Comfortable with Fear

Are you shy?

It’s time to embrace your fearless side. Everyone has that side. Often it is sitting on the sidelines waiting to be invited.

Maybe you haven’t noticed that it is there, but it is. Learning how to step away from being shy and jumping into being fearless doesn’t come easy. It takes guts.

It takes a strong enough will to want to accomplish your goal to get you there. If you haven’t succeeded at something have you asked yourself why not?

Allowing the Fails to Prepare You

Not succeeding right away doesn’t mean that you won’t ever succeed. Being able to fail and get back up takes grit.

It’s the desire to prove to yourself that you indeed will succeed. The first time that you fail at something is easier than the times after that. Failing the first time preps you for those multiple fails.

It is when you fail that you begin to question your path. You begin to doubt if you are meant to do that thing or not.

Failures will season you for the future. Your future self is depending on you failing. Sounds silly right?

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Spring Cleaning Your Dream

Spring Cleaning Your Dream

Spring cleaning your dream is a time to refresh what has gathered dust. If left unattended or neglected your dream will wither away with time. All dreams start out fresh and new with so many possibilities.

Life happens and what started out with urgency tends to get pushed to the back burner. That is when your dream starts asking for you to dust it off. It might be in the form of changing up your daily routine. The important thing to do is to simply begin the process.

Evaluate where you are currently at with your dream and your goals. When you have a dream it usually has a few things that fall under that umbrella. To be productive, you start by taking care of yourself.

When you are operating at your prime then the rest of your success follows. Maybe it means restarting your fitness routine or having nights out with your significant other. Do whatever it is to get your dream nice and shiny again.

Priorities are a must

Polish it up by taking a no excuses attitude towards it. When life gets busy it is easier to let things fall by the wayside. Start prioritizing your goals.

How important are they for you? Be willing to tweak things around a bit. Check and see how you are spending your time.

There are a variety of things that will drain valuable time. Too much time on social media or watching television are some of them. Brainstorm ways that will get your day started off to your advantage.

Have a plan

That could mean getting up a little earlier to exercise, reading or working before your other things begin. We all get a full twenty-four hours to do with as we please.

Spring cleaning might mean you have to let go of things no longer beneficial. Make a list to see what those things are. What can you live without?

Replace what you let go with what you will add to accomplish your goals. Getting rid of the time wasters will be your reward in the end. You will find what you thought you needed you won’t end up missing.

When you spring clean your home, you end up getting rid of things. Later you realize that you should have started a long time ago. That is the same feeling you will have with spring cleaning your dream.

The seasons of the year wait on no one. They come and go. The same holds true with the opportunities of your dream.

Now is the perfect time to start polishing off what is important to you. Check and see where you have allowed things to collect dust with your goals. With the right amount of elbow grease, you will be back on track with the things that matter with your dream.

Once you do you will get a fresh start with a new perspective on where you want to go. Dreams only come true when you put in the work. The time to tidy up is now.

Are you ready to spring forward with your dream?

Making Memories in the Big Apple

Making Memories in the Big Apple

Visiting New York City for the first time was quite the experience. It was about making memories in the Big Apple. The main purpose of my travel was to do a little bit of sightseeing and to attend a What Women Want Networking event though the NYC chapter with Judy Goss and Joan Pelzer. The guest speaker was Bill Carmody, CEO of Trepoint and also an Inc. columnist.

I make it a point to continue my professional development whenever possible. It is important for me to learn from these live events. Having the opportunity to listen to a speaker and hear their audience share their stories is golden.

My first day consisted of some down time at the hotel after I let it soak in. Here I was in the Big Apple just me, myself and I. I stayed at the Doubletree Metropolitan Hotel on Lexington Avenue in the heart of Manhattan. There was so much to see and for a hot minute I felt like I was in another world altogether.

The tall buildings, the fast pace and there were people everywhere. I couldn’t help but wonder where everyone was going. What they did for a living or who they were rushing to see. It was a constant hustle and bustle.

I had no choice but to try and blend in with the crowd. Yet, I couldn’t help but feel that I stood out amidst that landscape of interesting people. Maybe it was all in my head, but regardless I set out to ask where I would dine at.

One restaurant came to mind because I had heard about it twice already: The Smith on Second Avenue (at 51st Street). The concierge at the Doubletree recommended it. The great news was that it was only a short walk away.

I loved the ambiance when I arrived and it had quite the charm. My main course was a salmon entrée that sat on a bed of cauliflower almond mousse with scallions and some delicious shitake mushrooms. This dish was heavenly!

It practically melted in my mouth. I indulged in the sparkling water at my table and before I left ordered a dessert to go. I settled on the Winter Citrus for the name alone.

This dessert according to their menu consisted of an almond lemon sponge cake, yuzu curd, yogurt panna cotta and a lace cookie. How would anyone not want to try something so wonderful, right? Granted this wasn’t a time to consider any meal prep or diet of any sort. It was all about the experience.

High five to The Smith, I loved it! By the way this is not a sponsored post. I am only more than willing to give praise where it is deserved. The rest of the time was dedicated to writing and relaxing back in my room.

The Today Show

The second day I got it started by getting up early and made it to the Today Show per my sisters’ recommendation. Everyone was so welcoming upon my arrival at 6:30am that morning.

What I didn’t plan on was the chance to shake Al Rokers hand or to get to pet the puppy that Carson Daly was holding. I loved seeing all the signs that told you where people were from.

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Today Show

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