Posts tagged Confidence

Archery Tournament a Godsend

Archery Tournament a Godsend

I’ve been practicing archery for a couple of years now. I do not practice every week and only do it on occasion. The times that I have practiced with Christine I make sure that I do my best.

I found Christine Harrelson in Chapel Hill, North Carolina and am happy to say that she has taught me all that I know. A year ago, we had talked about entering a local tournament, but I got cold feet.

Have you ever been afraid to do something out of your comfort zone?

Entering a tournament certainly felt that way for me. It is one thing to do it for yourself as a hobby. It’s another thing to do it with a bunch of other more experienced archers.

I found out about this tournament at the last minute and signed up for it. The minute I signed up I knew that I was obligated to see it through.

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Be Thankful For The Growing Pains

Be Thankful for the Growing Pains

Ask anyone that has ever reached success doing what they love if they ever encountered growing pains. Without hesitation they will tell you that they have. Not only once, but countless times along their path to greatness. Be thankful for the growing pains.

Pushing through the growing pains with your dream requires true grit. You are determined enough to doing what must be done by having grit.

What do you do if you face uncertainty?

Do it anyway. Pursuing your goals requires a backbone. If you didn’t have one to begin with you will soon develop one. This is only true if you stick with it though.

Learn to become disciplined when it comes to facing adversity with your dream. Think of it as a challenge. It is a test to see if you will move on to the winning circle. You start off in Round 1 and then move on to other rounds each time that you push through.

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Ask Lucy: Loving Yourself

Ask Lucy: Loving Yourself

This week I’m covering a topic that one of my friends asked me to write about. She wanted me to write about loving yourself. This can mean different things and it will certainly vary for everyone.

Have you ever noticed putting everyone else first and neglecting yourself in the process? There are times when you must put others before you. Then there are times that you have to take some time to love yourself too.

Although as women we mean well it’s easy to forget that we are important too. We are the doers, the multi-taskers and the wonder women of the world. We chase the clock and try to squeeze all that we can into the twenty-four hours that we are given.

Any self-care moments we might grab on the go or forget all together. Obligations can lead to getting a busy schedule instead of a schedule that is meaningful.

How do you love yourself?

It is a question that deserves an answer. First, figure out why you might not be loving yourself the way that you deserve. Does it make you feel guilty if you do things that make you happy? It doesn’t make you selfish if that is what comes to mind first.

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5 Things I Learned at the Spirit of Women Conference

5 Things I Learned at the Spirit of Women Conference

Traveling to Atlanta, Georgia from North Carolina turned out to be the best way to spend a weekend at the Westin Peachtree Plaza. When you get like-minded people in the same room together you are in for a win. There is nothing better than filling up on a huge dose of inspiration.

I had heard of Judy Goss through her former job as an editor for More magazine and presently through her radio show: What Women Want Talk Radio that airs each week on LA Talk Radio. That is how I got acquainted with her and her co-host Kristin West a very talented actress and producer

I knew for sure that I wanted to attend this conference after having been a fan of their radio show. If they could inspire me over the air I was in for a treat in real life. I also wanted to extend my gratitude and show my support.

1. Networking Genuinely

The power of a well thought out conference is the ability to have participants network in a genuine way. There isn’t a sense of false pretenses and the people attending are all after something tangible that they can use. That is usually in the form of networking with others.

This conference provided the means to do that with people who had genuine interests. Not only did you get to network you found people from all walks of life that were there to make connections. I found that I was able to make some really great connections with special people.

2. Embracing All Of The Messy Things

Kelly McNelis, the founder of Women for One and the author of “Your Messy Brilliance: 7 Tools For The Imperfect Woman” had a flair for getting women to talk about all of the messy moments in their life. I can’t say that I was exempt from that myself, but she did it in a way that made you feel like talking about it.

It was like a shedding a layer of clothing that you didn’t plan on taking off.

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Reinventing Yourself Through Your Dream

Reinventing Yourself Through Your Dream

Pursuing your dream is a process. It has the tendency to test your limits. Reinventing yourself through your dream is the beginning of a journey.

From the get go you find out a lot about yourself and what you are capable of. You end up discovering the person that you are about to become.

Going after your gifts will require to think out of the box. That is the part that will stretch you. You may even think you might not want to do it.

Often it is easier to stay confined to your safety net. It’s the space that is comfortable. The area that you can count on. Most of the time there aren’t any opportunities to fail there.

Do you tend to stay in the comfort zone or step out of it?

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Celebrating My Blog Vintage Style

Celebrating My Blog Vintage Style

Reinventing myself through the eyes of a lens was a great feeling. You see before launching my blog I didn’t feel comfortable taking photos. I’m not ashamed to say that because it is part of my story. It is what is unique to me as an individual. If you want the story behind that see the link at the end of this post.

Here is what happens when you are a creative. You start thinking of your vision. You imagine what you want to create and then how you will create it.

On this journey, you must be willing to do things outside of the norm. For me it was getting all dressed up with a beautiful dress.

Along the way you find people who will see that vision and then make it a reality. That is what I did when I sought out to find my photographer for my first-year blog anniversary. I knew that this photo shoot would have to be as incredible as my first one.

I was looking to have fun and simply be comfortable in my own skin. Trusting someone else to do my makeup is something that I have been working on. Letting go and not being in control is a big deal.

I have found that I must trust the process and do it anyway. The great thing about doing it is that I get to see how others see me.

What I found most fun was deciding what to wear. I have always been a big fan of vintage clothing. This was an opportunity to indulge in it. Over the summer I was introduced to Canela Vintage based out of San Antonio, Texas.

Vintage Inspired

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A Year in Review of Lula Lucy: My Journey

A Year in Review of Lula Lucy

You might call her my alter ego, but I like to think of her as my sidekick. Who knew that a year ago this month I would embark on this dream of mine. Following your passion doesn’t happen by accident. Being intentional despite fear or uncertainty is what it takes to move forward.

It is the very thing that I did. I have started and not finished my pursuits many times. All because I didn’t believe enough. Let me share my journey with you.

How I got from then to now. The birth of Lula Lucy was inspired by sitting down over coffee with Linda Mendible. We had met at church. Little did I know that she would inspire me to be more.

I knew I needed an online presence. As a writer it is a given. However, I put it off as long as I could because deep down I never wanted to fail.

I was a writer way before blogging was even a thing. My start took place doing Op-Ed pieces in a newspaper and I wrote for free for quite a while.

We all start somewhere don’t we?

Becoming Lula Lucy

In 2016 before ever speaking with Linda I had planned on taking some photos for my family. Being a mom you get accustomed to taking pictures of everyone except yourself. What were supposed to be pics to give to my family turned into a photo shoot for my blog.

Around this time I had a custom painting done by the very talented Dan Campbell and he decided to call it “Woman with a Dream.” Every time that I looked at that painting I was inspired to do more. So you see when your passion calls on you things start to align as they should.

In the beginning I was on the hunt for my writing voice. I questioned if I even had one. I reached out to succesful bloggers to ask how to find it.

How do you really answer that kind of question though?

They reassured me that I would find it all on my own. There was not a magic formula to make it so. It simply was something that would come naturally. Plus, I would know it and feel it in my gut.

This past year has taught me what I’m capable of. It has shown me that it takes time, sacrifice, dedication and to never quit. That right there is what I consider to be the secret sauce: never quitting.

Have you ever started your dream and then quit?

That will be the only way it will not work for you. Finding your passion and sticking with it takes courage. The only person that will ever be in your way is you.

I have been in my way several times and guess what happened? It delayed my efforts and my end result. I try my best to push past it and do it anyway.

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Your Mindset Plays A Powerful Role

Your Mindset Plays A Powerful Role

Your mindset plays a powerful role in getting out of your comfort zone. When you look in the mirror that is the person that determines your actions. The things that you will either talk yourself into doing or talk yourself out of doing.

There is power in convincing yourself in the things that you can do. At the same time not believing in yourself has an equal amount of power too.

It is nice to know that you alone dictate what you will do. By changing the way that you think you can achieve your desired results. If you keep telling yourself you can’t do something then you won’t.

Is it easier said than done?

At times, it can be depending on the goal that you have. For instance, recently I had to do something in my workout that I was afraid of trying. It was a box jump.

The minute that I saw that on my list to do I wanted to run in the opposite direction. A lot of things crossed my mind. What if fail at trying?

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Ask Lucy: How Do I Get Out Of This Slump?

How Do I Get Out Of This Slump?

This weeks question comes from Kelly.

“I have been trying to be successful as an entrepreneur, but am having trouble staying motivated. I love what I do, but still feel like I’m not good enough. I see other people who are way more successful than I am. This makes me feel intimidated and makes me feel like going back to a 9-5 job. At least that is reliable. I have to admit I do feel like quitting. How do I get myself out of this slump?”

I would love to say that I can relate to all that you are saying, but I also have a current day job myself. I would enjoy being in your shoes, but I do know that it does come with a price.

Being an entrepeneur takes commitment, dedication, focus and sacrifice. Maybe you left your day job that provided a safety net and you pursued your calling.

First of all congratulations for taking the leap. That is a big deal! That takes a lot of guts. It sounds like you might be experiencing a little bit of imposter syndrome.

This is where you do not feel qualified to do what you are doing. When you start comparing yourself to others you fall victim to this. You perceive them as more successful and then start losing your worth in the process.

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New School Year Requires New Goals

New School Year Requires New Goals

It’s that time of year again as students get ready to go back to school. Here is a chance to talk about back to school goals. Students need to know that they have your support with a new school year.

Have you talked about new school year goals with your child?

If your child is in elementary school start out by asking simple questions. Ask what he or she hopes to learn with the new school year. Maybe they want to become a better reader or become more proficient in math.

Write it down on a piece of notebook paper and hang it up on the fridge. This way they will be able to see it as a reminder daily. Their reward will be checking off each goal as they complete it.

Evaluate Goals After One Month

If your child gets off track after a month or so sit down and talk about their goals again. Always ask how their day went. Make it a point to talk about the good and the bad things.

Getting the chance to release it all helps get it off their chest and then it becomes easier to refocus on the things that are important to them.

When your child is in middle school or high school it is a good idea that they get plenty of sleep. Tips for success include: being organized, having bottled water throughout the day and being on time. It is about going back to the basics.

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