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3 Ways Networking Can Spark Growth

3 Ways Networking Can Spark Growth

Growth with your dream takes time. There are some things that you must do alone and some that include doing a bit more. I have found 3 ways networking can spark growth.

First, get out of your comfort zone for starters. It is so much easier to stay within the confines of what you are used to. It’s predictable though and holds no mystery.

However, when you branch out by networking it adds a new element to your plan. There is something to be said for getting around other like-minded individuals. They bring excitement to your goals.

Get in front of other people

By getting in front of other people you open up your potential. You start making connections with people. Sometimes those connections become valued friendships.

Not only are you helping sharpen up your networking skills, but you end up helping others too. Not everyone looks forward to meeting new people. The world consists of both introverts and extroverts.

Connecting with new individuals creates an opportunity to learn from them as well. You never know who you will end up helping in return.

Immersing yourself with networking sparks your creative spirit. Maybe talking with someone that is doing something like what you are doing can fuel your desire to keep going. Listening to a different way that someone talks about your craft can help broaden your vision.

Any time that you are on your own it’s easy to think that your way is the only way. Opportunities to learn from others happens when you take the chance. That often means getting out there and being around other people.

I have made it a point to network whenever possible. Luckily, I have attended a couple of What Women Want National Conferences and I made some wonderful friends that way. Listening to keynote speakers to hear about how they got started with their dream fascinates me.

You gain confidence in yourself

The second way is that networking gives you confidence. Even if you are the type that wants to take flight and retreat it can happen. If you stick around long enough to find out that is. Once you face your inner self-talk and give yourself a pep talk it happens.

By doing something that feels strange, awkward and uncomfortable you break the habit. That habit could be you avoiding networking opportunities. Each time that you participate you learn what worked and what didn’t.

Going to a networking event means that you may not know it all, but you go for it anyway. You break the ice a little each time that you go. You let down your guard enough to start feeling confident to do so.

Gain success by following up

Last but not least is the third-way networking can spark your growth. Once that you attend a networking event it is easy to collect a business card and forget about it. Instead, go over the cards that benefit you the most. What kind of people attended the event that you could follow up with?

Maybe it is someone that is doing something like what you are doing. Possibly it is someone that could use your services or the other way around. Don’t be afraid to help other people. Maybe that contact isn’t for you, but you know someone that could benefit from their services. Right there you will be helping a couple of people.

Following up after a networking event isn’t always about you. It can mean more than that. When you contact someone remember to thank them for speaking with you at the event. Take it from there and the rest will follow.

Networking gives you an opportunity to do all these things. It inspires and motivates you to keep on going and get you excited again. It is like taking in a breath of fresh air.

Give it a chance, think positive and enjoy yourself. Find the kind of events that work best for you. I have definitely found my kind of events and I know that you will too.

Starting Your Dream Before A New Year

Starting Your Dream Before A New Year

Here we are in November 2018. A month where you celebrate by being thankful and you look forward to the big feast. It is also a time to think about starting your dream before a new year.

Let me tell you why November is the perfect time to start. First, you owe it to yourself to begin. Starting something that you have always thought of doing is rewarding.

It is going towards that thing that has been keeping you up at night. Only you know what that is. At this time of year, helps you look at how fast time has flown.

Have you spent it doing what you are passionate about?

Time to reflect

If you haven’t, ask yourself why not? I like to reflect on how far I have come with writing for instance. I go back to the beginning of the year.

This helps me gauge my progress to date. If you haven’t started your dream yet it is a good exercise to start doing. Look at how you have spent your time so far.

Where might you omit things that aren’t benefiting you?

Most might look at all these months and notice that they all had some things in common. Perhaps that was working a 9-5 job, raising a family, being a wife or significant other. These are the usual things.

Start the process

However, what step could you start taking now? Some type of action that requires you to go for it. Look at it as a way to stop not put it off until the new year is underway. Your time is now.

It is like someone giving you the head start. When in fact that person is you. You give yourself permission to start that diet, begin that side business or a brand-new career altogether.

Maybe it is starting the process to register for college and go back to school. It could be that you have always wanted to start a hobby. What is it that you want to start today?

If you have already started the process but have been procrastinating, get back on track. You would be surprised at what you can do before the start of 2019. That is what keeps me going.

Knowing the time that I still have left to submit articles. The opportunity to publish new content, freelance as a proofreader and so many other things under my writer life. I love knowing that I can still finish strong in 2018.

The same holds true for you. All it takes is that initial first step towards that thing that beckons you. Think of it as a gift that is waiting to be opened.

Are you ready to reveal what is underneath all that sparkly gift wrap? I know that I am.

Doing More of What You Love

Doing More of What You Love

Each day is a chance to doing more of what you love. Looking at your days of the week may show you a pattern. You might notice that you are doing the same things throughout the week. How do you break out of that cycle?

This doesn’t mean you abandon your responsibilities, but rather explore ways to add value to your day. Maybe you have thought of visiting a place on your wish list. It could be something small or something that you need to plan.

With careful thought you could find yourself doing more things that make you happy. Maybe you are waiting for your significant other to take the lead. Instead you pour yourself into being busier. One word of advice: stop and instead you take the lead.

If you work, you may find that you are too busy to plan outside of your normal routine. People often make it harder than what it is. You could look at your day in two ways.

You work a set number of hours. Then you go on to other responsibilities whether that is on your own or with your family or significant other. The second way is to carve out some time where you get to enjoy something different.

Maybe that is getting together with a friend. If you are a parent maybe you try something new with your kids. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but it does have to provide enjoyment. You can work the daily grind and do it all over the next day or you could change up your routine today.

Don’t neglect the signs around you

What if you neglect noticing the signs around you that you miss out on it?

It happens all the time. Especially if you work a 9-5 job. A friend asks you to get together, your child asks to spend time with you or a loved one hints for some quality time together. How many times have you missed out on a chance to make memories?

Those are the things that you’ll remember you loved doing. Put your cell phone down, get off your laptop and give in to these moments. They are the things that will make you happier.

Change up the way that you do things. See a movie during the week instead of the weekend. Eat at a special restaurant instead of waiting for your birthday. Say yes to an invite instead of wondering if you should go or not.

It’s okay to continue working hard at your job and on your dreams. Although it’s important to remember that we all get the same hours in one day, in one month and in one year.

Give yourself time to indulge in the little things, the big things and anything else in between. Feeling more fulfilled at the end of the day will be your reward. You’ll be able to go to bed with a smile on your face.

If you could do more of what you love today, what would it be?

Lucy Brummett
Enjoying my first photo shoot. It was a blast!

Follow your Dream Despite the Doubt

Follow your Dream Despite the Doubt

Blogging weekly this past year has taught me how to be consistent. I have connected with some amazing people and made new friendships.

Do you have a dream that you have put on hold?

What a lot of people don’t realize is that all dreams take time. Not everyone starts out rolling in the dough. It’s not about that anyway. Making money is important eventually, but the main reason should be more than that.

It should be something that you are passionate about. It’s that one thing that you can’t wait to get up and start each day.

I have friends that almost gave up on their dream and quitting seemed like the logical choice. These were women with full-time jobs and families. There was plenty of balancing on what to do and what not to do.

Try Not to Second Guess

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Ask Lucy: Loving Yourself

Ask Lucy: Loving Yourself

This week I’m covering a topic that one of my friends asked me to write about. She wanted me to write about loving yourself. This can mean different things and it will certainly vary for everyone.

Have you ever noticed putting everyone else first and neglecting yourself in the process? There are times when you must put others before you. Then there are times that you have to take some time to love yourself too.

Although as women we mean well it’s easy to forget that we are important too. We are the doers, the multi-taskers and the wonder women of the world. We chase the clock and try to squeeze all that we can into the twenty-four hours that we are given.

Any self-care moments we might grab on the go or forget all together. Obligations can lead to getting a busy schedule instead of a schedule that is meaningful.

How do you love yourself?

It is a question that deserves an answer. First, figure out why you might not be loving yourself the way that you deserve. Does it make you feel guilty if you do things that make you happy? It doesn’t make you selfish if that is what comes to mind first.

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Ask Lucy: Finding Balance in the Chaos

This weeks question comes from Natalie.

“I live a very busy life. I work full-time, have a family and feel as though I’m pulled in so many directions. How do I take the chaos out of my day-to-day and still stop to smell the roses?”

Being a busy mother with a full schedule can feel overwhelming at times. I can relate, but am blessed that our children our older and independent. However, as a mom you will always be needed. Not only as a mother, but also as a wife and friend.

Is it possible to find a healthy balance?

The answer is yes. Find out what is making you feel as if you can’t do it all. Identify the things that are causing you stress. I have found that it helps to delegate some duties to other members of my family. Whether it is my spouse or our children.

Find out what works best for you and your family. If you had the opportunity to stop and smell the roses what would you do?

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Building Up Courage to Let Go

Building Up Courage to Let Go

“This weeks question comes from Sonia.

F.E.A.R-How do you build up the courage to move on and let go?'”

That is a great question because we all face that at one time or another. It’s different for everyone. Fear keeps you from moving on because it causes you to face your biggest obstacle: you.

You are your own worst enemy when you decide to keep hitting the replay button on your issue. All the what ifs consume your thoughts. I have news for you. It doesn’t make you happy.

It is a time sucker and it will deplete you of your joy. You deserve to be happy instead of being burdened with whatever has a stronghold on your life.

Easier said than done right?

There is no magic formula with this. It all depends on how long you want to hold on to it. How many more hours do you want to give to your fear?

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Ask Lucy: How Do I Get Out Of This Slump?

How Do I Get Out Of This Slump?

This weeks question comes from Kelly.

“I have been trying to be successful as an entrepreneur, but am having trouble staying motivated. I love what I do, but still feel like I’m not good enough. I see other people who are way more successful than I am. This makes me feel intimidated and makes me feel like going back to a 9-5 job. At least that is reliable. I have to admit I do feel like quitting. How do I get myself out of this slump?”

I would love to say that I can relate to all that you are saying, but I also have a current day job myself. I would enjoy being in your shoes, but I do know that it does come with a price.

Being an entrepeneur takes commitment, dedication, focus and sacrifice. Maybe you left your day job that provided a safety net and you pursued your calling.

First of all congratulations for taking the leap. That is a big deal! That takes a lot of guts. It sounds like you might be experiencing a little bit of imposter syndrome.

This is where you do not feel qualified to do what you are doing. When you start comparing yourself to others you fall victim to this. You perceive them as more successful and then start losing your worth in the process.

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Ask Lucy: How Do I Stop..

This week the question comes from Elena.

Lately, I have been feeling overwhelmed with my day-to-day job. By the time I get home I feel too tired to do anything else after a stressful day. As much as I want to complete my life goals I find myself procrastinating. How do I stop procrastinating?” 

How do I stop procrastinating?

It seems as if no matter how bad you want to complete your goals you find ways to put them off. At first you are headstrong in going after them. Then you manage to get on the hamster wheel.

Working at your day job gives me the impression that it isn’t your first choice. Having a job while pursuing your goals is common. If your goal is to get a different career then you have to put in the time now.

Think of your time after work as your motivation in accomplishing your goals. By looking at your time as an opportunity it changes your mindset.

Completing your goals takes discipline. Try focusing on being committed to dedicating time to your goals after work.

Find time to get active. It might mean getting up earlier and squeezing in a workout. If you would rather do it after work than that might mean sacrificing something else. Look at it as a trade-off for the greater good.

Incorporating fitness into your schedule will help you from feeling tired each day. It is about setting up your day for success.

Keep your goals visible.

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Blocking Out The Dream Critics Is Beneficial

Blocking Out The Dream Critics Is Beneficial

Going after your dream is an awesome journey. At first you are excited and you end up shouting it from the rooftops. You share it with each person that you believe will support you every step of the way.

You believe that all of your friends and family will be on board with your dream. What happens when you run into the dream critics though? Sometimes you may not even recognize them. They are in your circle of family, co-workers and friends.

It is one thing to listen to good advice about your dream and another to listen to negativity. Keep an open mind when people steer you away from pursuing your dream. Blocking out dream critics can be beneficial.

Are they able to prove why your dream won’t work? Recognize when someone is simply wanting you to fail.

At some point during the pursuit of your dream you will run into those that don’t want you to succeed. Their reasons may not be apparent and there may be an underlying culprit for their non-belief in what you are trying to do.

How do you block out the dream critics?

This is when you start evaluating the people who are encouraging you and those that are not. Going after your dream requires you to be committed to it no matter what. You can look at it as a weeding process.

You can block out a dream critic by not sharing your dream with them as often. Talk about other things going on in your life or listening more to what is going on with theirs. Just because someone isn’t supporting what you are dreaming about doesn’t mean you can’t be friends or at least be acquaintances.

Blocking out this type of negativity makes you more aware of what is important. It’s your dream and when you take action amazing things start to happen. You let go of what is bogging you down from moving forward.

As much as you want the support of everyone that you know that isn’t always possible. Observe the things that you notice when you start eliminating the critics. You will feel more peace with working on the things that matter the most.

You start to move towards where you are meant to go with your dream. Imagine someone telling you what a bad idea your dream is or that it’ll never work. It doesn’t exactly inspire you to be all that you can be.

Now imagine a person telling you what a great idea it is. That they believe in you and they start encouraging you to pursue your dream. That is like night and day.

I find that I am more inspired by being around the people who lift me up. The type of people who have utter faith in what I am doing with my dream. They also are the ones that do not believe in quitting because they have been through it themselves.

Who would you be more apt to listen to? I know I would be steering towards those that would push me in the right direction.

Taking action steers you towards your purpose

Do whatever it takes to pursue what you are called to do. A dream only works if you give it a chance to. Weeding out the critics is similar to weeding out your garden. When you pull the weeds out that allows the garden to thrive and flourish.

It’s true beauty has a chance to emerge and produce what it is meant to. That is the same thing with your dream. It deserves the same loving care and attention that a garden does.

Dream critics are simply potholes in the road. They are temporary distractions. They only remain permanent if you give them the power to do so.

I am going to continue navigating my own path. Although I’ll encounter those dream critics I’ll be ready to listen to my own voice: the one that knows my dreams are worth chasing. In the end you get this one life and it’s your chance to make it the best that it can be.

Are you ready to take action?

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