In this weeks Ask Lucy segment the questions come from Lesley.
“How do you juggle being a busy mom, wife and with two careers? How do you do it all and find time to take care of yourself? You are always so beautifully put together and happy looking.”
Wow, those are great questions and such a beautiful compliment Lesley! As long as I can remember I have always worked full-time and have been a writer during that time. I make time for my husband, our boys and myself.
My husband and I like to watch movies usually on demand on cable. If the weather is nice we have been known to hop on his Harley and take a nice ride then stop and get a bite to eat. With our boys we watch movies together or go out to eat.
My recent trip to Dallas, Texas took me to the Next conference in Plano, Texas. I have wanted to see Terri Savelle Foy in person because she has been very inspirational to me with her podcasts and television broadcast this past year. You can find her at: http://www.terri.com.
I decided to stay where the conference was being held and that was at the Hilton in Granite Park in Plano, Texas. My stay was made even better with all of the wonderful staff there. I don’t think I ran into one single unhappy person during my time there. http://bit.ly/2jDaM1P
When I arrived at the Hilton I was able to use their valet service. When you are anxious to get settled into your room valet parking is a blessing. One of the amenities that I was more than willing to use. It saved me time in looking for a parking space.
What I liked about staying at the Hilton was that I didn’t need to venture far at all. Had I stayed longer I would have gone to the nearby IKEA store too. http://bit.ly/2knqeMy
What kind of amenities are a must have for you when you travel?
I always look for a place that has a nice restaurant on site and that offers lattes whenever possible. I am most definitely a coffee girl. It doesn’t matter if it is morning, noon or night. I mean doesn’t everybody need coffee?
This Hilton had a nice outdoor pool with a hot tub and a really nice fire pit outside that had seating all around it. It made it nice to be able to sit at different areas and everyone would get their time around the fire.
There were plenty of areas inside to work at and a bar to eat or have cocktails at. There was also access to a 24 hour fitness center. On my second morning there I made it to the gym by 5:00 am and was the only one there.
Finding me time on your schedule doesn’t have to be hard. Over the years I have learned that it is absolutely okay to do you. Long ago I would have thought that going to get a massage was a selfish thing to get, but now I’m in a place where I understand it’s benefits more clearly.
It’s therapeutic to say the least. Go ahead and schedule that time. Now in order to get the time that you deserve there are things to consider.
Do you have any children?
If so then finding someone who can take care of them is the first thing that you should do. Unless your spouse is willing to take care of the children for you. Either way, if your children are little; secure a sitter. Once you get this task done you can go onto the next step.
Have you ever felt the pull of the tide in the ocean?
One minute you are floating in the water and the next you are further out than you anticipated. When you embark on your journey to achieve your dream it can take you to the next phase quickly. When it does will you be ready?
I’m talking about being prepared for the things that are being placed in front of you. Maybe you thought it would take longer to get to the next level. Planning for the things that you are expecting in the future will set you up for success.
It will also help if it doesn’t take you by surprise. When you are caught off guard it throws you off-balance. This can also complicate things on your end. If you are lucky enough to be seeing the success that comes with this movement than preparation is key.
Can you imagine what the scenario would be like if you didn’t plan for it?
What inspires you with your goals?
There is always a lot of thought that goes into pursuing your goals. You have days where you may have countless energy to pursue them and other days when you don’t. Have you ever felt like you were part of the endless daily grind? You get up, get ready for work and then come home to care for loved ones. Only to do it all over again the next day.
This isn’t saying that a person isn’t grateful for having a daily job or going home to their responsibilities. However if you could stop for a minute and think about where you are now and where you could be; what would you choose?
Would you go after that lifelong dream or goal despite being busy with a daily routine? Or would you let the opportunity pass you by? The beauty of it is that you always have a choice. Being busy raising a family or working a full-time job will still be a big part of your day.
Ever read up on ways that you can enhance yourself?
Pick up any magazine and there will always be articles on things that can make you look better. Whether it is a hot new hair color, a sexy outfit or the latest beauty fad. Recently I was catching up on social media and noticed a picture of getting New Years Eve ready by getting a spray tan.
As a teen I grew up when tanning salons and laying outside in the sun were all the rage. I grew into becoming a woman and that all changed. Taking care of your skin became a priority.
Have you tried taking better care of your skin?
Do you know what it’s like to pick up your dream again?
I do. You see I started writing when I was a teenager. I would write poetry for myself. It was my way of getting away from the realities of life.
I must admit I would write when I was sad about something. People have their own way of venting and expressing themselves and for me it was through writing.
There was something about putting pen to paper and letting the words find each other artistically. I did it for years. It’s amazing the things that you can do when you simply begin.
I wrote for free for a few years until I landed a freelance job as a columnist for a newspaper in Ohio. I loved it and then got published in a couple of books.
Have you ever felt on top of the world?
Ever feel compelled to do something nice for someone?
During this time of year, it’s common to want to help our fellow-man. It is a season for giving and thinking of others. The holiday has a way of bringing out the best in all of us.
Pay attention to what is going on around you each day. You will almost always encounter a good deed taking place. It might be someone holding the door open for you or someone else. Perhaps it will be allowing a person to take the parking spot that you wanted.
When was the last time that you had a feel-good moment?
Are you in control of your dream on a daily basis?
Embarking on the journey towards your dream means that you must also add discipline. When you first start off on your journey you experience star struck wonder. You are in a land like no other totally fascinated with all of the amazing possibilities.
You can still have all of these things, but in order to grow, self-discipline is a must.
I’d like to share some tips that will help you stay focused with intention while going after your dream.
Do you need self-discipline?
When you are going after your dream you must get serious and really have a plan of action. If you are not strategic about this then things get lost along the way. Those things could be inspiration and motivation.
The most helpful thing that you can get is a planner. A hard copy always works best. Don’t forget the cool apps that you can use on your phone. https://trello.com/ is a great choice to help keep you on track. The sticky notes on your tablet or laptop are helpful too.
Do you have some favorite apps that are tech savvy for you?
With my Dreamers in Motion column I interview some amazing people who are pursuing their passion. I hope to keep you all inspired with the people who I’m putting under the spotlight.
I think everyone deserves their moment to shine.
Q. Who is Linda Mendible?
Wow, what a question. Currently? A wife, mom & small biz owner/blogger, but most importantly a Christian.
Q. When did you know that you wanted to pursue your dream?