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A Year in Review of Lula Lucy: My Journey

A Year in Review of Lula Lucy

You might call her my alter ego, but I like to think of her as my sidekick. Who knew that a year ago this month I would embark on this dream of mine. Following your passion doesn’t happen by accident. Being intentional despite fear or uncertainty is what it takes to move forward.

It is the very thing that I did. I have started and not finished my pursuits many times. All because I didn’t believe enough. Let me share my journey with you.

How I got from then to now. The birth of Lula Lucy was inspired by sitting down over coffee with Linda Mendible. We had met at church. Little did I know that she would inspire me to be more.

I knew I needed an online presence. As a writer it is a given. However, I put it off as long as I could because deep down I never wanted to fail.

I was a writer way before blogging was even a thing. My start took place doing Op-Ed pieces in a newspaper and I wrote for free for quite a while.

We all start somewhere don’t we?

Becoming Lula Lucy

In 2016 before ever speaking with Linda I had planned on taking some photos for my family. Being a mom you get accustomed to taking pictures of everyone except yourself. What were supposed to be pics to give to my family turned into a photo shoot for my blog.

Around this time I had a custom painting done by the very talented Dan Campbell and he decided to call it “Woman with a Dream.” Every time that I looked at that painting I was inspired to do more. So you see when your passion calls on you things start to align as they should.

In the beginning I was on the hunt for my writing voice. I questioned if I even had one. I reached out to succesful bloggers to ask how to find it.

How do you really answer that kind of question though?

They reassured me that I would find it all on my own. There was not a magic formula to make it so. It simply was something that would come naturally. Plus, I would know it and feel it in my gut.

This past year has taught me what I’m capable of. It has shown me that it takes time, sacrifice, dedication and to never quit. That right there is what I consider to be the secret sauce: never quitting.

Have you ever started your dream and then quit?

That will be the only way it will not work for you. Finding your passion and sticking with it takes courage. The only person that will ever be in your way is you.

I have been in my way several times and guess what happened? It delayed my efforts and my end result. I try my best to push past it and do it anyway.

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Building Up Courage to Let Go

Building Up Courage to Let Go

“This weeks question comes from Sonia.

F.E.A.R-How do you build up the courage to move on and let go?'”

That is a great question because we all face that at one time or another. It’s different for everyone. Fear keeps you from moving on because it causes you to face your biggest obstacle: you.

You are your own worst enemy when you decide to keep hitting the replay button on your issue. All the what ifs consume your thoughts. I have news for you. It doesn’t make you happy.

It is a time sucker and it will deplete you of your joy. You deserve to be happy instead of being burdened with whatever has a stronghold on your life.

Easier said than done right?

There is no magic formula with this. It all depends on how long you want to hold on to it. How many more hours do you want to give to your fear?

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Your Mindset Plays A Powerful Role

Your Mindset Plays A Powerful Role

Your mindset plays a powerful role in getting out of your comfort zone. When you look in the mirror that is the person that determines your actions. The things that you will either talk yourself into doing or talk yourself out of doing.

There is power in convincing yourself in the things that you can do. At the same time not believing in yourself has an equal amount of power too.

It is nice to know that you alone dictate what you will do. By changing the way that you think you can achieve your desired results. If you keep telling yourself you can’t do something then you won’t.

Is it easier said than done?

At times, it can be depending on the goal that you have. For instance, recently I had to do something in my workout that I was afraid of trying. It was a box jump.

The minute that I saw that on my list to do I wanted to run in the opposite direction. A lot of things crossed my mind. What if fail at trying?

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Ask Lucy: How Do I Get Out Of This Slump?

How Do I Get Out Of This Slump?

This weeks question comes from Kelly.

“I have been trying to be successful as an entrepreneur, but am having trouble staying motivated. I love what I do, but still feel like I’m not good enough. I see other people who are way more successful than I am. This makes me feel intimidated and makes me feel like going back to a 9-5 job. At least that is reliable. I have to admit I do feel like quitting. How do I get myself out of this slump?”

I would love to say that I can relate to all that you are saying, but I also have a current day job myself. I would enjoy being in your shoes, but I do know that it does come with a price.

Being an entrepeneur takes commitment, dedication, focus and sacrifice. Maybe you left your day job that provided a safety net and you pursued your calling.

First of all congratulations for taking the leap. That is a big deal! That takes a lot of guts. It sounds like you might be experiencing a little bit of imposter syndrome.

This is where you do not feel qualified to do what you are doing. When you start comparing yourself to others you fall victim to this. You perceive them as more successful and then start losing your worth in the process.

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New School Year Requires New Goals

New School Year Requires New Goals

It’s that time of year again as students get ready to go back to school. Here is a chance to talk about back to school goals. Students need to know that they have your support with a new school year.

Have you talked about new school year goals with your child?

If your child is in elementary school start out by asking simple questions. Ask what he or she hopes to learn with the new school year. Maybe they want to become a better reader or become more proficient in math.

Write it down on a piece of notebook paper and hang it up on the fridge. This way they will be able to see it as a reminder daily. Their reward will be checking off each goal as they complete it.

Evaluate Goals After One Month

If your child gets off track after a month or so sit down and talk about their goals again. Always ask how their day went. Make it a point to talk about the good and the bad things.

Getting the chance to release it all helps get it off their chest and then it becomes easier to refocus on the things that are important to them.

When your child is in middle school or high school it is a good idea that they get plenty of sleep. Tips for success include: being organized, having bottled water throughout the day and being on time. It is about going back to the basics.

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Listening To Your Inner Voice

Listening To Your Inner Voice

Do you know how easy it is to hesitate in making a decision about your dream or your goals? Try listening to your inner voice. I mean stop everything else that you are doing and be an active listener.

Have you ever tried to do that?

Your chances of being successful are much higher when you get in tune with that voice. Your voice is intuition letting you know what you are capable of doing. Self-doubt is the other voice that makes you think that you can’t do something.

I know your inner voice is worth listening to. When you are striving towards the next step with your goal you have to trust your gut. When you do start to trust you experience a shift.

What is that shift?

At first your goal might appear difficult even impossible to do. That is because you are scared of what could happen and that you might fail. No one likes to be a failure at anything.

If you know that you don’t want to fail it’s time to move on to the next thing. That very next step that takes you to the ledge.

Anyone that ever wanted to be successful at something had to experience failure many times over. It is the way that it goes. Once you understand that you can get past the hard stuff.

When you want to complete a goal you have to want it with all of your soul. You can’t be in it halfway and think that the rest will come easy. Goals are work.

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Ask Lucy: How Do I Stop..

This week the question comes from Elena.

Lately, I have been feeling overwhelmed with my day-to-day job. By the time I get home I feel too tired to do anything else after a stressful day. As much as I want to complete my life goals I find myself procrastinating. How do I stop procrastinating?” 

How do I stop procrastinating?

It seems as if no matter how bad you want to complete your goals you find ways to put them off. At first you are headstrong in going after them. Then you manage to get on the hamster wheel.

Working at your day job gives me the impression that it isn’t your first choice. Having a job while pursuing your goals is common. If your goal is to get a different career then you have to put in the time now.

Think of your time after work as your motivation in accomplishing your goals. By looking at your time as an opportunity it changes your mindset.

Completing your goals takes discipline. Try focusing on being committed to dedicating time to your goals after work.

Find time to get active. It might mean getting up earlier and squeezing in a workout. If you would rather do it after work than that might mean sacrificing something else. Look at it as a trade-off for the greater good.

Incorporating fitness into your schedule will help you from feeling tired each day. It is about setting up your day for success.

Keep your goals visible.

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Embracing Your Inner Warrior To Propel You Forward

Embracing Your Inner Warrior

Chasing your goals depends on your determination to complete them. You get to decide if you want to pursue them or not. When the going gets tough you must embrace your inner warrior.

Have you ever met your inner warrior?

You might encounter your inner warrior when you feel like giving up on your goals. This warrior has been with you for a long time. It usually won’t make an appearance until you feel like fighting for something.

What are you fighting for?

Maybe it is finding the courage to leave an uncomfortable environment that is toxic to your goals. Perhaps you have been trying to lose a few pounds, you want to take the leap with your dream or leave your current job to find your dream job.

Goals are there for a reason. It’s an opportunity to have happiness with your life, be a role model for others and gives you the motivation to strive for more.

What do you do when fear sets in?

Don’t forget about the naysayers that think your goals or dreams are ridiculous. This is about the time that you want to go run and hide. Some people do and end up going with the flow with what society thinks they should do.

They shy away from their potential to succeed because they fall prey to being insecure. Insecurity comes from not believing what you have the potential of doing. You are too worried about failure.

Ask yourself what you are willing to do.

Fight for your dreams and goals every step of the way. Yes, it can be scary. However, if you embrace your inner warrior your end result will be your reward.

Think of your inner warrior as that one friend who is ready to stand up for you. It’s that friend that feeds you inspiration at the perfect time. A time when you think something is impossible.

Have you ever wanted something so badly that it consumed your thoughts?

If you look at it as more than a whim or a hobby it grows into something bigger. You end up feeding your desire with willpower.

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Ask Lucy: How Do I Get Him To Notice Me Again?

This week in Ask Lucy the question comes from Alexis.

“I have been married to my husband for many years and we have two teen children. We both work and find it difficult to make time as a couple. Actually I suggest going out, but all I get in return are excuses that he is too busy with work. I’m not trying to be shallow, but I also stay fit with exercise to continue being attractive for him. How do I get him to notice me again and have him look at me the way that he did when he fell in love with me? I’m grateful for our marriage, but not feeling that he realizes I’m still sexy and need that time alone with him outside of our house.”

Ah! This is a good question! Being together in a marriage for so many years takes a lot of work. I know from my own experience. As couples we tend to get busier as our children get older.

Having a family to take care of and working full-time can seem overwhelming. It doesn’t mean that you both don’t still have the wow factor though. I bet he notices you more than you think. Marriage comes with its trials and tribulations.

Some men are awesome about letting their wife know how beautiful that she still is. Yet, there are others that don’t do that, but that doesn’t mean that they are bad people. These type of men have a different way of expressing how they feel.

Stop and think of all of the wonderful qualities that your husband possesses. What made you fall in love with him? Think back to the day that you felt those butterflies in your stomach.

Do you remember how that made you feel?

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Blocking Out The Dream Critics Is Beneficial

Blocking Out The Dream Critics Is Beneficial

Going after your dream is an awesome journey. At first you are excited and you end up shouting it from the rooftops. You share it with each person that you believe will support you every step of the way.

You believe that all of your friends and family will be on board with your dream. What happens when you run into the dream critics though? Sometimes you may not even recognize them. They are in your circle of family, co-workers and friends.

It is one thing to listen to good advice about your dream and another to listen to negativity. Keep an open mind when people steer you away from pursuing your dream. Blocking out dream critics can be beneficial.

Are they able to prove why your dream won’t work? Recognize when someone is simply wanting you to fail.

At some point during the pursuit of your dream you will run into those that don’t want you to succeed. Their reasons may not be apparent and there may be an underlying culprit for their non-belief in what you are trying to do.

How do you block out the dream critics?

This is when you start evaluating the people who are encouraging you and those that are not. Going after your dream requires you to be committed to it no matter what. You can look at it as a weeding process.

You can block out a dream critic by not sharing your dream with them as often. Talk about other things going on in your life or listening more to what is going on with theirs. Just because someone isn’t supporting what you are dreaming about doesn’t mean you can’t be friends or at least be acquaintances.

Blocking out this type of negativity makes you more aware of what is important. It’s your dream and when you take action amazing things start to happen. You let go of what is bogging you down from moving forward.

As much as you want the support of everyone that you know that isn’t always possible. Observe the things that you notice when you start eliminating the critics. You will feel more peace with working on the things that matter the most.

You start to move towards where you are meant to go with your dream. Imagine someone telling you what a bad idea your dream is or that it’ll never work. It doesn’t exactly inspire you to be all that you can be.

Now imagine a person telling you what a great idea it is. That they believe in you and they start encouraging you to pursue your dream. That is like night and day.

I find that I am more inspired by being around the people who lift me up. The type of people who have utter faith in what I am doing with my dream. They also are the ones that do not believe in quitting because they have been through it themselves.

Who would you be more apt to listen to? I know I would be steering towards those that would push me in the right direction.

Taking action steers you towards your purpose

Do whatever it takes to pursue what you are called to do. A dream only works if you give it a chance to. Weeding out the critics is similar to weeding out your garden. When you pull the weeds out that allows the garden to thrive and flourish.

It’s true beauty has a chance to emerge and produce what it is meant to. That is the same thing with your dream. It deserves the same loving care and attention that a garden does.

Dream critics are simply potholes in the road. They are temporary distractions. They only remain permanent if you give them the power to do so.

I am going to continue navigating my own path. Although I’ll encounter those dream critics I’ll be ready to listen to my own voice: the one that knows my dreams are worth chasing. In the end you get this one life and it’s your chance to make it the best that it can be.

Are you ready to take action?

I truly enjoy receiving submissions from my readers. Have a question and want some advice on it? Submissions may be edited for clarity and your first name will be used unless you specify otherwise. If you would like to have your question featured on an upcoming “Ask Lucy” segment please email me at hello@lulalucy.com