This weeks question comes from Natalie.
“I live a very busy life. I work full-time, have a family and feel as though I’m pulled in so many directions. How do I take the chaos out of my day-to-day and still stop to smell the roses?”
Being a busy mother with a full schedule can feel overwhelming at times. I can relate, but am blessed that our children our older and independent. However, as a mom you will always be needed. Not only as a mother, but also as a wife and friend.
Is it possible to find a healthy balance?
The answer is yes. Find out what is making you feel as if you can’t do it all. Identify the things that are causing you stress. I have found that it helps to delegate some duties to other members of my family. Whether it is my spouse or our children.
Find out what works best for you and your family. If you had the opportunity to stop and smell the roses what would you do?
There are 24 hours in a day. Part of that time you will spend it working, eating, sleeping, spending time with others, cleaning and doing something fun or relaxing. Make a pie chart and fill in how you are spending your time.
Make a second pie chart and fill in how you would like to spend your time. Now compare the two of them. Do you find that the second pie chart looks more promising? If so, I encourage you to shed the mom guilt.
The thing about mom guilt and sometimes wife guilt is that we believe that it makes us selfish. It doesn’t. When you shed this type of guilt you start enjoying your life even more.
The great news about wearing many hats is that you get to decide when to wear them. It’s about choosing what you want to do every day of your life. You will always have obligations, but you can still bring balance into your life.
As women it is easy to get caught up in the needs of others before recognizing that we have needs too. Take a minute to notice how you feel when you let go of some of the things that you don’t have to do. You end up feeling more energetic and happier too.
When you are happy then those around you reap the rewards also. Usually, they will be more than happy to lend a helping hand. Recently, at a conference I heard the speaker say: “You have not because you ask not.”
There’s a lot of truth in those words. Have you asked?
Life has many windows of opportunity to stop and smell the roses. They can be the simplest things that turn out to be the most meaningful moments. Go out and enjoy yours today.
It’s your chance to start getting the things that you deserve. You will be a better person for it. Let go of the things that do not serve a purpose.
Are you ready to hold on to the things that do?