Date Archives February 2017

Ask Lucy

In this weeks Ask Lucy segment the question comes from Maria.

“How can a person love oneself before loving others?”

This is such a great question. It is one that so many people encounter at one point or another depending on the things that they have gone through. Let’s peel the layers on this one.

Self-love isn’t always easy to give to yourself especially when life has taken you through some hardships. Bad things happen to good people and as a result your ability to give love to others suffers.

Holding on to the negative baggage that you went through belongs in one place: the trashcan. This negative bond holds on to you like the gum on your shoe. Like that gum the baggage can be removed.

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Conferences Provide Opportunity For Personal Development

Imagine getting to see a person of influence while pursuing your dreams in real life. Have you ever had that kind of experience? Attending the Next conference in Plano, Texas was the best investment that I’ve made this year.

Terri Savelle Foy was just as nice, funny and beautiful in person as she is on her television broadcast, YouTube channel and podcast.

I was introduced to her podcast when I first reignited my journey towards my dream in 2016. I immediately was drawn to her positivity and her motivational talks. Going after what you are meant to do is easier when you have a virtual mentor.

Conferences provide a chance to engage in personal development. You get to decide the kind of conference that best suits your needs.

How do you choose the conference that is right for you?

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Ask Lucy

In this weeks Ask Lucy segment the question comes from Evelyn.

“You have been a real inspiration to me as I watch you pursue your dreams. What advice can you offer to somebody who has ambition to pursue an alternate career, but is hesitant to take that “leap of faith” for fear of the unknown?”

I really love this question because it is something that I am really passionate about. Ambition is a powerful tool if you use it to your advantage. I have found that when you decide, that is the game changer.

At some point or another people usually want to change careers. It’s normal to go through. Ask yourself why you are hesitant to take that leap of faith.

What are you afraid of besides the unknown?

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Marriage Woes Demystified

Ever felt the need to talk about keeping the love alive in your marriage?

Love is an emotion that evokes bliss, awe, wonder and sometimes havoc in our lives. To define love would take a long time for some and yet for others be explained in such a short span of time.

Where are you at in your relationship with love?

Love can be complicated, but it can also be so wonderful. In the beginning, there is the infamous honeymoon stage. This is where you really want to impress each other.

It’s that comfy space where you feel safe. There is no room for insecurities here. This is the place where you feel like impressing the other person.

What comes after the engagement phase?

Ah, here is the promise to commit to one another in the future. You get even more comfortable. Excitement enters the air as you plan the next phase of your new life together.

I mean who wouldn’t get excited about something like that?

Then the big day arrives and you officially tie the knot. You’re married now. You start to live happily ever after.

Does it really happen like this?

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Ask Lucy

In this weeks Ask Lucy segment the question comes from Sonia.

“Recently two friends have confided in me that they are thinking of getting a divorce. Both have been in a long marriage  (5-10+ years.) Although I am rooting for their marriage to get back on track; this does not help my fear of tying the knot myself. It is a conversation that has come up recently in my own relationship. I’m scared that I might say no because of this fear of divorcing like everyone that I know. What can I do to feel more secure about saying yes to marriage?”

Well first of all let me commend you for being that friend that offers support and positive feedback on this particular subject. Divorce is such a sensitive topic for so many people. It is a difficult time for those contemplating such a decision.

Often it is hard to even discuss with your friends for fear of what you might hear back on this subject. Don’t let what other people have gone through be an indicator of how marriage will turn out for you.

Remember that everyone has their own troubles and that you need to be clear on how you really feel about marriage in general. Keep in mind that just because the people in your life have gone through a divorce doesn’t mean that you will follow suit.

There are people who were meant to be married and also made the right decision in getting a divorce amicably. Sometimes there is an abuse in a relationship and all the more reason to end a marriage. When all else fails to restore a marriage, divorce can end up being the last resort.

All marriages go through various stages. There are up’s and there are also downs. It’s really a matter of being able to communicate from the very beginning.

Keep on having this conversation with your significant other. Be open to discussing your fears about getting married. The last thing that you want to do is to say no because you’re afraid.

The thought of marriage can seem scary. You wonder what it will be like or if you are truly ready. Commitment is a serious thing.

Think about what scares you about saying yes to marriage. Is it simply that the people who you love and care about have gone through a divorce or is there more to your fear?

Maybe you are afraid to say yes because you still like being in the current relationship as it is. It feels safe. Are you the one bringing up the subject of marriage or is it your significant other?

Write down all of your fears about getting married. What is the worst thing that can happen by saying yes and what is the best thing that could happen? Pour your heart out and then read through your list.

How do you feel after reading it? Does anything surprise you? You could ask your significant other to write a list also and then read each others concerns along with the good reasons why you should marry.

What do you want your marriage to look like?

Dig deep to see if it is rooted in love or something else. If you decide to say yes give it your best from the get go. Do it for each other.

It would be wonderful if your friends didn’t have such a difficult time in their life, but things happen. However, there are good things that come along with the bad. There might still be hope for them.

Your job is to evaluate where your true fear is coming from. It’s perfectly fine to be engaged for as long as you both decide to. Take your time deciding on this next chapter of your life.

Marriage is a big deal. That is why you need to ask each other if you are willing to commit for the long haul. For better and for worse. You can’t have one without the other.

Hopefully it will mostly be better for the both of you. This is your life so choose wisely. Your significant other is depending on you to be ready without any reservations.

If you decide to say yes do it for the right reasons. Marriage can be a wonderful experience if both parties are in it to stay committed to one another. It is true that both parties must work at a marriage, but it is worth it.

Have you been pondering over a question that you aren’t sure about? Need advice on it? If you would like to have your question featured on an upcoming “Ask Lucy” segment please email me at:


Love Yourself First This Valentine’s Day

Ever feel lonely on Valentine’s Day?

I’m talking about whether you are single, in a relationship or if you are married. Sometimes these special occasions can make you feel sad versus happy. If you are in a loving relationship this does not apply to you.

Instead of wallowing in self-pity try loving yourself first. Yes, you heard me right I’m talking about you first. In order to be happier with any holiday that comes along its important to feel good about you.

When you are content with who you are in the present moment it allows you to look forward to holidays all the more. It’s not about the expectations that you have about the other person. Neither is it keeping score on what a person has done for you in the past.

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Ask Lucy


In this weeks Ask Lucy segment the questions come from Lesley.

“How do you juggle being a busy mom, wife and with two careers? How do you do it all and find time to take care of yourself? You are always so beautifully put together and happy looking.”

Wow, those are great questions and such a beautiful compliment Lesley! As long as I can remember I have always worked full-time and have been a writer during that time. I make time for my husband, our boys and myself.

My husband and I like to watch movies usually on demand on cable. If the weather is nice we have been known to hop on his Harley and take a nice ride then stop and get a bite to eat. With our boys we watch movies together or go out to eat.

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Hilton At Granite Park And Local Area Review

My recent trip to Dallas, Texas took me to the Next conference in Plano, Texas. I have wanted to see Terri Savelle Foy in person because she has been very inspirational to me with her podcasts and television broadcast this past year. You can find her at:

I decided to stay where the conference was being held and that was at the Hilton in Granite Park in Plano, Texas. My stay was made even better with all of the wonderful staff there. I don’t think I ran into one single unhappy person during my time there.

When I arrived at the Hilton I was able to use their valet service. When you are anxious to get settled into your room valet parking is a blessing. One of the amenities that I was more than willing to use. It saved me time in looking for a parking space.

What I liked about staying at the Hilton was that I didn’t need to venture far at all. Had I stayed longer I would have gone to the nearby IKEA store too.

What kind of amenities are a must have for you when you travel?

I always look for a place that has a nice restaurant on site and that offers lattes whenever possible. I am most definitely a coffee girl. It doesn’t matter if it is morning, noon or night. I mean doesn’t everybody need coffee?

This Hilton had a nice outdoor pool with a hot tub and a really nice fire pit outside that had seating all around it. It made it nice to be able to sit at different areas and everyone would get their time around the fire.

There were plenty of areas inside to work at and a bar to eat or have cocktails at. There was also access to a 24 hour fitness center. On my second morning there I made it to the gym by 5:00 am and was the only one there.

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