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5 Things I Learned at the Spirit of Women Conference

5 Things I Learned at the Spirit of Women Conference

Traveling to Atlanta, Georgia from North Carolina turned out to be the best way to spend a weekend at the Westin Peachtree Plaza. When you get like-minded people in the same room together you are in for a win. There is nothing better than filling up on a huge dose of inspiration.

I had heard of Judy Goss through her former job as an editor for More magazine and presently through her radio show: What Women Want Talk Radio that airs each week on LA Talk Radio. That is how I got acquainted with her and her co-host Kristin West a very talented actress and producer

I knew for sure that I wanted to attend this conference after having been a fan of their radio show. If they could inspire me over the air I was in for a treat in real life. I also wanted to extend my gratitude and show my support.

1. Networking Genuinely

The power of a well thought out conference is the ability to have participants network in a genuine way. There isn’t a sense of false pretenses and the people attending are all after something tangible that they can use. That is usually in the form of networking with others.

This conference provided the means to do that with people who had genuine interests. Not only did you get to network you found people from all walks of life that were there to make connections. I found that I was able to make some really great connections with special people.

2. Embracing All Of The Messy Things

Kelly McNelis, the founder of Women for One and the author of “Your Messy Brilliance: 7 Tools For The Imperfect Woman” had a flair for getting women to talk about all of the messy moments in their life. I can’t say that I was exempt from that myself, but she did it in a way that made you feel like talking about it.

It was like a shedding a layer of clothing that you didn’t plan on taking off.

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Reinventing Yourself Through Your Dream

Reinventing Yourself Through Your Dream

Pursuing your dream is a process. It has the tendency to test your limits. Reinventing yourself through your dream is the beginning of a journey.

From the get go you find out a lot about yourself and what you are capable of. You end up discovering the person that you are about to become.

Going after your gifts will require to think out of the box. That is the part that will stretch you. You may even think you might not want to do it.

Often it is easier to stay confined to your safety net. It’s the space that is comfortable. The area that you can count on. Most of the time there aren’t any opportunities to fail there.

Do you tend to stay in the comfort zone or step out of it?

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Celebrating My Blog Vintage Style

Celebrating My Blog Vintage Style

Reinventing myself through the eyes of a lens was a great feeling. You see before launching my blog I didn’t feel comfortable taking photos. I’m not ashamed to say that because it is part of my story. It is what is unique to me as an individual. If you want the story behind that see the link at the end of this post.

Here is what happens when you are a creative. You start thinking of your vision. You imagine what you want to create and then how you will create it.

On this journey, you must be willing to do things outside of the norm. For me it was getting all dressed up with a beautiful dress.

Along the way you find people who will see that vision and then make it a reality. That is what I did when I sought out to find my photographer for my first-year blog anniversary. I knew that this photo shoot would have to be as incredible as my first one.

I was looking to have fun and simply be comfortable in my own skin. Trusting someone else to do my makeup is something that I have been working on. Letting go and not being in control is a big deal.

I have found that I must trust the process and do it anyway. The great thing about doing it is that I get to see how others see me.

What I found most fun was deciding what to wear. I have always been a big fan of vintage clothing. This was an opportunity to indulge in it. Over the summer I was introduced to Canela Vintage based out of San Antonio, Texas.

Vintage Inspired

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A Year in Review of Lula Lucy: My Journey

A Year in Review of Lula Lucy

You might call her my alter ego, but I like to think of her as my sidekick. Who knew that a year ago this month I would embark on this dream of mine. Following your passion doesn’t happen by accident. Being intentional despite fear or uncertainty is what it takes to move forward.

It is the very thing that I did. I have started and not finished my pursuits many times. All because I didn’t believe enough. Let me share my journey with you.

How I got from then to now. The birth of Lula Lucy was inspired by sitting down over coffee with Linda Mendible. We had met at church. Little did I know that she would inspire me to be more.

I knew I needed an online presence. As a writer it is a given. However, I put it off as long as I could because deep down I never wanted to fail.

I was a writer way before blogging was even a thing. My start took place doing Op-Ed pieces in a newspaper and I wrote for free for quite a while.

We all start somewhere don’t we?

Becoming Lula Lucy

In 2016 before ever speaking with Linda I had planned on taking some photos for my family. Being a mom you get accustomed to taking pictures of everyone except yourself. What were supposed to be pics to give to my family turned into a photo shoot for my blog.

Around this time I had a custom painting done by the very talented Dan Campbell and he decided to call it “Woman with a Dream.” Every time that I looked at that painting I was inspired to do more. So you see when your passion calls on you things start to align as they should.

In the beginning I was on the hunt for my writing voice. I questioned if I even had one. I reached out to succesful bloggers to ask how to find it.

How do you really answer that kind of question though?

They reassured me that I would find it all on my own. There was not a magic formula to make it so. It simply was something that would come naturally. Plus, I would know it and feel it in my gut.

This past year has taught me what I’m capable of. It has shown me that it takes time, sacrifice, dedication and to never quit. That right there is what I consider to be the secret sauce: never quitting.

Have you ever started your dream and then quit?

That will be the only way it will not work for you. Finding your passion and sticking with it takes courage. The only person that will ever be in your way is you.

I have been in my way several times and guess what happened? It delayed my efforts and my end result. I try my best to push past it and do it anyway.

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Your Mindset Plays A Powerful Role

Your Mindset Plays A Powerful Role

Your mindset plays a powerful role in getting out of your comfort zone. When you look in the mirror that is the person that determines your actions. The things that you will either talk yourself into doing or talk yourself out of doing.

There is power in convincing yourself in the things that you can do. At the same time not believing in yourself has an equal amount of power too.

It is nice to know that you alone dictate what you will do. By changing the way that you think you can achieve your desired results. If you keep telling yourself you can’t do something then you won’t.

Is it easier said than done?

At times, it can be depending on the goal that you have. For instance, recently I had to do something in my workout that I was afraid of trying. It was a box jump.

The minute that I saw that on my list to do I wanted to run in the opposite direction. A lot of things crossed my mind. What if fail at trying?

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New School Year Requires New Goals

New School Year Requires New Goals

It’s that time of year again as students get ready to go back to school. Here is a chance to talk about back to school goals. Students need to know that they have your support with a new school year.

Have you talked about new school year goals with your child?

If your child is in elementary school start out by asking simple questions. Ask what he or she hopes to learn with the new school year. Maybe they want to become a better reader or become more proficient in math.

Write it down on a piece of notebook paper and hang it up on the fridge. This way they will be able to see it as a reminder daily. Their reward will be checking off each goal as they complete it.

Evaluate Goals After One Month

If your child gets off track after a month or so sit down and talk about their goals again. Always ask how their day went. Make it a point to talk about the good and the bad things.

Getting the chance to release it all helps get it off their chest and then it becomes easier to refocus on the things that are important to them.

When your child is in middle school or high school it is a good idea that they get plenty of sleep. Tips for success include: being organized, having bottled water throughout the day and being on time. It is about going back to the basics.

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Listening To Your Inner Voice

Listening To Your Inner Voice

Do you know how easy it is to hesitate in making a decision about your dream or your goals? Try listening to your inner voice. I mean stop everything else that you are doing and be an active listener.

Have you ever tried to do that?

Your chances of being successful are much higher when you get in tune with that voice. Your voice is intuition letting you know what you are capable of doing. Self-doubt is the other voice that makes you think that you can’t do something.

I know your inner voice is worth listening to. When you are striving towards the next step with your goal you have to trust your gut. When you do start to trust you experience a shift.

What is that shift?

At first your goal might appear difficult even impossible to do. That is because you are scared of what could happen and that you might fail. No one likes to be a failure at anything.

If you know that you don’t want to fail it’s time to move on to the next thing. That very next step that takes you to the ledge.

Anyone that ever wanted to be successful at something had to experience failure many times over. It is the way that it goes. Once you understand that you can get past the hard stuff.

When you want to complete a goal you have to want it with all of your soul. You can’t be in it halfway and think that the rest will come easy. Goals are work.

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Embracing Your Inner Warrior To Propel You Forward

Embracing Your Inner Warrior

Chasing your goals depends on your determination to complete them. You get to decide if you want to pursue them or not. When the going gets tough you must embrace your inner warrior.

Have you ever met your inner warrior?

You might encounter your inner warrior when you feel like giving up on your goals. This warrior has been with you for a long time. It usually won’t make an appearance until you feel like fighting for something.

What are you fighting for?

Maybe it is finding the courage to leave an uncomfortable environment that is toxic to your goals. Perhaps you have been trying to lose a few pounds, you want to take the leap with your dream or leave your current job to find your dream job.

Goals are there for a reason. It’s an opportunity to have happiness with your life, be a role model for others and gives you the motivation to strive for more.

What do you do when fear sets in?

Don’t forget about the naysayers that think your goals or dreams are ridiculous. This is about the time that you want to go run and hide. Some people do and end up going with the flow with what society thinks they should do.

They shy away from their potential to succeed because they fall prey to being insecure. Insecurity comes from not believing what you have the potential of doing. You are too worried about failure.

Ask yourself what you are willing to do.

Fight for your dreams and goals every step of the way. Yes, it can be scary. However, if you embrace your inner warrior your end result will be your reward.

Think of your inner warrior as that one friend who is ready to stand up for you. It’s that friend that feeds you inspiration at the perfect time. A time when you think something is impossible.

Have you ever wanted something so badly that it consumed your thoughts?

If you look at it as more than a whim or a hobby it grows into something bigger. You end up feeding your desire with willpower.

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Blocking Out The Dream Critics Is Beneficial

Blocking Out The Dream Critics Is Beneficial

Going after your dream is an awesome journey. At first you are excited and you end up shouting it from the rooftops. You share it with each person that you believe will support you every step of the way.

You believe that all of your friends and family will be on board with your dream. What happens when you run into the dream critics though? Sometimes you may not even recognize them. They are in your circle of family, co-workers and friends.

It is one thing to listen to good advice about your dream and another to listen to negativity. Keep an open mind when people steer you away from pursuing your dream. Blocking out dream critics can be beneficial.

Are they able to prove why your dream won’t work? Recognize when someone is simply wanting you to fail.

At some point during the pursuit of your dream you will run into those that don’t want you to succeed. Their reasons may not be apparent and there may be an underlying culprit for their non-belief in what you are trying to do.

How do you block out the dream critics?

This is when you start evaluating the people who are encouraging you and those that are not. Going after your dream requires you to be committed to it no matter what. You can look at it as a weeding process.

You can block out a dream critic by not sharing your dream with them as often. Talk about other things going on in your life or listening more to what is going on with theirs. Just because someone isn’t supporting what you are dreaming about doesn’t mean you can’t be friends or at least be acquaintances.

Blocking out this type of negativity makes you more aware of what is important. It’s your dream and when you take action amazing things start to happen. You let go of what is bogging you down from moving forward.

As much as you want the support of everyone that you know that isn’t always possible. Observe the things that you notice when you start eliminating the critics. You will feel more peace with working on the things that matter the most.

You start to move towards where you are meant to go with your dream. Imagine someone telling you what a bad idea your dream is or that it’ll never work. It doesn’t exactly inspire you to be all that you can be.

Now imagine a person telling you what a great idea it is. That they believe in you and they start encouraging you to pursue your dream. That is like night and day.

I find that I am more inspired by being around the people who lift me up. The type of people who have utter faith in what I am doing with my dream. They also are the ones that do not believe in quitting because they have been through it themselves.

Who would you be more apt to listen to? I know I would be steering towards those that would push me in the right direction.

Taking action steers you towards your purpose

Do whatever it takes to pursue what you are called to do. A dream only works if you give it a chance to. Weeding out the critics is similar to weeding out your garden. When you pull the weeds out that allows the garden to thrive and flourish.

It’s true beauty has a chance to emerge and produce what it is meant to. That is the same thing with your dream. It deserves the same loving care and attention that a garden does.

Dream critics are simply potholes in the road. They are temporary distractions. They only remain permanent if you give them the power to do so.

I am going to continue navigating my own path. Although I’ll encounter those dream critics I’ll be ready to listen to my own voice: the one that knows my dreams are worth chasing. In the end you get this one life and it’s your chance to make it the best that it can be.

Are you ready to take action?

I truly enjoy receiving submissions from my readers. Have a question and want some advice on it? Submissions may be edited for clarity and your first name will be used unless you specify otherwise. If you would like to have your question featured on an upcoming “Ask Lucy” segment please email me at: hello@lulalucy.com

How Shopping Alone Prepped Me For The Unexpected

Shopping Alone Calls For Being Alert

How shopping alone prepped me for the unexpected.

Recently, I decided to make a quick trip to the mall while on my lunch break. I wanted to stop and buy some sandals along with visiting a nice little coffee cafe.

Anytime that I am out and about I love to stop and buy a flavorful latte. After picking up a quick bite and my latte I headed towards the hallway towards the exit.

A man made a comment about me being beautiful and it alerted me in the way that he looked at me. It wasn’t a genuine compliment, instead more disrespectful in nature. He also happened to be walking in the opposite direction.

Considering that I work with the public on a daily basis I’m prone to making observations about people. I work in a place that calls for me to be on top of things before allowing people through the door. It’s that keen sense of awareness.

Something told me that I was going to be followed. My goal was to get back to work on time. When I got closer to the exit I turned around and the same man was clearly following me.

I held the door open so that he could go out first. He asked me if I had a boyfriend and I replied that I was married. Looking back now I should have stayed in the mall since I was in an unsafe situation.

I say unsafe because this man then proceeded to say vulgar things to me. He had no right to get graphic with me. However, he told me what he would do to me sexually.

I was able to get in my car after that and he knew that he couldn’t get to me. He walked away. He didn’t look like he was sorry at all.

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