Ever find a roadblock on the road?
Usually there will be a detour that isn’t the most convenient, but you take it nonetheless. Roadblocks come up in your journey too. That dream or goal of yours doesn’t go away because of a little roadblock.
How do you identify the roadblocks within your dream?
The biggest one that you will have is yourself. How is that even possible right? If you avoid the things that you are afraid of doing then you end up quitting. That right there is what should scare you the most.
Can you imagine not following your passion because you were too afraid to?
Not me, not even for a minute. Over the years I have been quite the procrastinator. I used to be the one that only wrote when I felt like it. I’d wait around for my muse the same way one waits to see the next rainbow.
Over the past year I have learned that my biggest roadblock has been me. Hard to admit that in public, but this is a place where I have to be honest. Fear of the unknown is a powerful thing.
It is so easy to worry about failing at something, sharing your plans with others that may not understand and being uneasy of how you will be perceived by them.
They are all legitimate concerns, but will people go to bed wondering why you failed your dream? I don’t think so. Failure is all part of that creative process.
Think about when you learned how to ride a bike for the first time. Did you want to give up trying? Maybe at first, but then determination came knocking at your door.
You ended up getting back up and kept getting on that bike until one day you learned how. You chose not to give up on yourself. Did you know that although you can be your worst critic you can also be your best cheerleader?
Criticizing yourself is exhausting, but finding ways to motivate yourself will inspire you. I have found that even on the days that I may be tired I push myself. Whether it is a goal as a writer or when I am working out I make myself show up.
Showing up is the hardest part. It is so easy to make excuses and delay what we want to do. That is when you need to get out of your own way.
Recognize when you are putting something on hold because you are afraid of what comes next. Make yourself get out of your comfort zone and feel uncomfortable. There are some goals or tasks on your path that will make you question yourself.
You will find an excuse to do something not related to what you should be working on. That is usually because you haven’t stepped out and are still in your safe space. It is nice there since you don’t have to worry about anything.
Talk to a good friend or mentor that can shed some light on your fear. Often times they can inspire you not to quit. It always helps to surround yourself with like-minded people.
Start imagining what it will look like to pursue your dream with less fear. You will always encounter fear, but look past it. Your dream or goal is worth going through the awkward part. Those feelings that scare you are temporary.
One of the most empowering moments with your dream is when you tell fear to take a hike. You stand face to face with it. To see who will win. The you that is cowering in the corner afraid of the what if or the you that stands tall ready to race ahead and be in the game.
Make plans to give yourself that important pep talk. Find a mantra that you can stick with during this process and give yourself positive affirmations. Do this on a daily basis.
Soon you will start seeing results. Maybe your dream means you want to get in shape over a season. Perhaps your dream includes being an entrepreneur.
Be strategic with your plan of action. If you know what scares you ahead of time then you can plan on what to do. Thinking about this ahead of time will set you up for success.
It is when you don’t have a plan and you give in to your worst fears that you end up quitting. I find comfort in the pursuit of my dream because I know where I am going.
I will still stay on my path wherever my dream is supposed to take me. I am more than sure I will encounter failures along the way. However, I will go to sleep each night knowing that I still got back on my bike and pedaled anyway.
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