Ever felt like you can’t ever catch up?
You know the times when you are running non-stop with that to do list. It is so easy to feel as if you are being pulled in so many directions.
Ever been on a merry-go-round?
That is the feeling that I’m talking about. When you are looking for that perfect moment to try to jump off, but are unsure. Well life is kind of like that.
Have you ever felt like you were ready to jump off of it?
There are so many things in our daily lives that require our undivided attention. Whether that is our 9-5 job, our children or any other demands that we call life. All things that are important at any given time.
What do you do about it when it becomes overwhelming?
Well the first thing to do is not to panic. There’s almost always a sensible solution to any dilemma. A little positive self-talk is all that you need.
Remember when someone lifts your spirits to cheer you up?
It makes you feel like there is truly a light at the end of the tunnel. Evaluate the things that you do daily. Think of ways that you can streamline some of those tasks.
Are there any tasks that you can let go of or delegate to others?
Do you find yourself saying yes to just about everything?
I call it The Yes Girl Syndrome. It’s that thing we do because we want to be nice 24/7 and not disappoint anyone. However, when you say yes to it all then sometimes you end up disappointing yourself. The guilt then comes along for a little visit.
Yes, it happens even to the best of us. Especially if you are a giver it’s even more inevitable. Unfortunately, that can lead to feeling even more overwhelmed with it all.
Whether you are a mother, work full-time, or if you don’t have children yet it’s easy to be that Yes Girl. I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way. I’m not saying to say no to everything, but instead choose wisely.
How will it make you feel if you say yes?
If it leaves you feeling happy then go for it. If you immediately sense doom in the pit of your stomach, then don’t do it. Saying yes should never make you feel obligated. By choosing the things that you know that you can agree to will make it less stressful. Being happy with your decision is when you know it is a step in the right direction.
How do you go from saying yes most of the time to possibly saying no or even maybe?
Think about what you can handle based on what is being asked of you. Usually there are tasks that are nonnegotiable that you do weekly. By choosing things by the value that you put on them will help you decide what you can or choose not to do.
What will saying no do for you?
First of all it will give you peace of mind. That is a win right away. Think immediate satisfaction here. You’ll be able to inhale and exhale without the guilt.
Saying no to things sometimes doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you more independent to spend quality time on the things that serve you better in the long run. That could mean more time with your family, with a friend or simply more time for yourself.
If you find it too difficult to stop being a Yes Girl then start slowly by saying no to one thing a week. Ease into it. After a while it’ll get easier. Most people will respect you more for it because they will want to follow suit and do it also.
Think of it as doing this for the greater good. Your life will be less stressful. A feeling of happiness of your newfound freedom will take up a permanent residence in your life.
Letting go of the Yes Girl Syndrome is easier than what you think. After saying no to something you’ll most certainly feel empowered. Think super hero quality.
Don’t you yearn for that type of feeling?
The things that you take on are totally up to you. They always have been. The secret sauce to bliss here is deciding what you want to do.
Saying no will not be as hard as you think. If you have already committed to saying yes to some things then keep your word and see those things through. That’ll help you keep your integrity.
There is no better time than now to start being a new you. It’s okay to take baby steps until you feel more comfortable saying no to things. You will hesitate at first. You might even feel awkward at times.
You are bound to fidget like a small child, but it’ll all be worth it. You will start wearing your true happiness with a smile and with a huge amount of confidence. No one will shun you if they respect your decision.
Are you ready to get your power back like a boss?